[MAL10]

Do you ever get the fear that you don't know what to talk about at your next session?

Mine session with T is tomorrow and i can feel the anxiety creeping in that I don't know what to talk about!

I seem to always talk about the same things!

[WikidPissah]

I never know what to talk about. Most times there are things buzzing in my head, but they don't come out unless I am asked direct questions. Thankfully I have a T who has learned to read me and leads well.

[MAL10]

I wish mine would - I'm always expected to start the session!

Originally Posted by MAL10

Do you ever get the fear that you don't know what to talk about at your next session?

Mine session with T is tomorrow and i can feel the anxiety creeping in that I don't know what to talk about!

I seem to always talk about the same things!

Yes, happens to me almost every time. A couple of times I've brought notes with me to refer to so I'll remember what I want to bring up, but usually, as you say, it's the same things.

Can you bring it up with your T, do you think? Seems some of them respond well to knowing that this is an issue.

[likelife]

I'm expected to start too, and usually start off with some inane chatter - filling her in from my week, that kind of thing. I always seem to land on something meaningful.

[critterlady]

I almost always go in with an empty agenda. Sometimes we start with how I've been since the last time we saw each other, sometimes I'll just say that I don't know where to start and he'll ask me something, usually related to what we've recently discussed.

I've never had trouble filling the hour.

Even if I think I know what I want to talk about, that's normally just a guise for what I really want to talk about.

[kirbydog156]

Sometimes I just say that I'm having trouble getting started. He's usually referred to the session notes before my appointment, so he's able to refresh my memory and we usually take it from there. Another thing that might be helpful is to just check in with yourself on how you're feeling that particular day (like, i'm feeling "anxious" or "sad" or unsettled", etc., and that can be the beginning of a great unraveling of what's going on for you.

[lostmyway21]

When I started I used to plan what I wanted to talk about. Sometimes I would email him points that I wanted to cover the night before so I wouldn't forget. Now I go in with no plan. I sometimes have stuff to say and sometimes I don't. I see him twice a week, so sometimes I don't always fill both sessions with talking. Thankfully we go for walks on both sessions so even if we aren't talking we are walking together its not an awkward silence. Sometimes a lot is said in silence.

[Stoda]

Mine always starts by asking how my week has been - drives me crazy because I see her on a Monday. I'm learning to ignore it.

In the begining I was a mess and always had something to talk about. Then I started to get a grip on life and would fear sessions of not talking. Then we'd play the silent game ... which I hate. It's a common t tool to be quiet and let you do the talking in the uncomfortable silence, but since I know this tool I turn it into a game of who can be quiet the longest - I usually win, but lose on meaningful discussion with my t.

Now I sometimes go in with things I want to talk about, sometimes I mention the things that have been stuck in my head that day, sometimes she brings up something we discussed previously, and sometimes she asks about an important person in my life.

It sounds like you don't have a great fit with your t. You might want to think of going to someone else. Just like you aren't going to fit with just anyone you may date, but the right one is out there somewhere; you might not fit with the first t you found, but the right one is out there somewhere.