[scilence]

Ok, I have been on the site maybe a week now (maybe??). I just started seeing a T. I don't feel comfortable talking right now so we're not making any progress. BUT... I am dying to now if I am the only one who wonders if their T comes on this site and connects the dots that you are their patient?? Do yall think I am crazy for asking this?? haha.. I guess we know who are the newbies in therapy and who's not?? I have actually really been thinking about it a lot and scared to post anything...

[CantExplain]

Not at all! We talk about this all the time.

Actually, this question comes up fairly frequently around here. Personally I don't worry about it at all. My T, I guarantee you, has much more interesting things to do when he leaves the office than read more about therapy. He spends his time with his girlfriend, his family, riding his bike, doing group therapy in the evenings, walking his dog, working in his yard, etc., etc. As much as possible, he leaves his work at work.

[scilence]

Farmergirl, how do you know so much about your T? I didn't remember my T's name until the 3rd appt. and Tuesday is only my 4th.

[delicatefade26]

I'm 100% positive my T doesn't and I don't think he would ever be interested in something like this either...which I'm thankful for : )

Originally Posted by scilence

Farmergirl, how do you know so much about your T? I didn't remember my T's name until the 3rd appt. and Tuesday is only my 4th.

Hee, hee. I've been seeing him for an eternity - over 7 years, so I do know him quite well, but it is knowledge acquired a bit at a time.

[scilence]

Ok, I'll just say it's me being paranoid lol.

[rainboots87]

I had considered it, but I figure my T is probably way too busy with work and her family to bother coming on here enough to figure me out. Besides, if she did see my posts, it's pretty much what she already knows.

[sconnie892]

Welcome Scilence!

When I started posting I worried about my t reading posts and figuring out who I was. So at first I was very hesitant to post any detail about a session that would identify me. But after awhile I decided 1) T probably doesn't have time to come on here. 2) If T does come on here she'd have to read quite a few posts to figure out who I was. 3) If T did figure it out it would only give her more insight into who I was. Now I post with reckless abandon (okay, maybe not quite to that extent.)

ours doesnt but honestly we wouldnt care if she did because then maybe she might get a clue what we really need♥

[WikidPissah]

I have gotten kind of paranoid about this before. A couple times in T he brought up something similar to what I posted on here. Often I posted about things I couldn't tell T...then low and behold he pushed me in that direction the following session. I even stopped posting for a while. Seriously though, I highly doubt he comes here.

[Crescent Moon]

I think most therapists get their voyuristic needs met at work :-)

I`d guess, though, that psychology students might find a place like this interesting..

[stopdog]

1. Even if a therapist were reading on here, does it really appear as though one could be found out from what one posts? On any given day, some people are quitting, some are in love with the therapist, some hate the therapist, some love or hate therapy, some miss the therapist, some wish the therapist would go away, some want to be told what to do, some would oppose being told what to do, some want to be touched, some would despise being touched, some consider them saints, some consider them somewhat, if not dead flat, evil, some think the therapist is perfect, some believe they are more flawed than most, and so forth. None of it is that unique. It may seem important to one at the time, but that does not make it unique as a theme or idea that gets played out daily by the thousands or millions of clients and therapists across the world.

2. What does one really write on here that one would not tell the therapist or that the therapist does not probably suspect? Sometimes I am nicer about that one I see on here than I am in real life to her, but I don't think her well being depends upon me and how I am towards her. They are doing a job and clients pay them to do that job. If the therapist is so enmeshed or insecure or nuts that they would get upset/angry/hurt over what some client wrote on an anonymous forum, then they need to get supervision, get better supervision, or get back into therapy themselves.

[WikidPissah]

you have a way with words stopdog.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

you have a way with words stopdog.

that was lovely, wasn't it?

[KazzaX]

I had pondered this before because, let's face it, I would be easily identifiable due to the nature of my posts (lol). But i thought to myself "they are in their office 40+ hours a week listening to this stuff - i doubt they would come home and start looking on psychology websites like this with more of the same. They would want a break!

And stopdog has a lot of good points there too.

yeah I have those thoughts too, but seriously there are thousands of us and thousands of them and yeah, I just don't think they have the time to sort through all these posts in all these forums and find the ones that are ours. lol...

[shoez]

No you are not..
I stoppped coming on psychcentral cuz i was scared...In fact. I keep thinking my T has implanted a device and can see everything I do on the internet...even on my phone.
Im stupid for thinking I could possibly be that important in Ts life...I rationally dont think she does this...but still lingering fear.

In fact im stlll scared so i dont post a lot..afraid Ts gonna say im pathetic and stupid for constantly needing support.

[Elbie]

Originally Posted by scilence

Ok, I have been on the site maybe a week now (maybe??). I just started seeing a T. I don't feel comfortable talking right now so we're not making any progress. BUT... I am dying to now if I am the only one who wonders if their T comes on this site and connects the dots that you are their patient?? Do yall think I am crazy for asking this?? haha.. I guess we know who are the newbies in therapy and who's not?? I have actually really been thinking about it a lot and scared to post anything...

Do you think your T will judge you? If they do you minght consider a new T.

[Elbie]

Originally Posted by scilence

Ok, I have been on the site maybe a week now (maybe??). I just started seeing a T. I don't feel comfortable talking right now so we're not making any progress. BUT... I am dying to now if I am the only one who wonders if their T comes on this site and connects the dots that you are their patient?? Do yall think I am crazy for asking this?? haha.. I guess we know who are the newbies in therapy and who's not?? I have actually really been thinking about it a lot and scared to post anything...

The first step is the Hardest . My first step to admit I have an imperfect self.

[scilence]

Originally Posted by stopdog

1. Even if a therapist were reading on here, does it really appear as though one could be found out from what one posts? On any given day, some people are quitting, some are in love with the therapist, some hate the therapist, some love or hate therapy, some miss the therapist, some wish the therapist would go away, some want to be told what to do, some would oppose being told what to do, some want to be touched, some would despise being touched, some consider them saints, some consider them somewhat, if not dead flat, evil, some think the therapist is perfect, some believe they are more flawed than most, and so forth. None of it is that unique. It may seem important to one at the time, but that does not make it unique as a theme or idea that gets played out daily by the thousands or millions of clients and therapists across the world.

2. What does one really write on here that one would not tell the therapist or that the therapist does not probably suspect? Sometimes I am nicer about that one I see on here than I am in real life to her, but I don't think her well being depends upon me and how I am towards her. They are doing a job and clients pay them to do that job. If the therapist is so enmeshed or insecure or nuts that they would get upset/angry/hurt over what some client wrote on an anonymous forum, then they need to get supervision, get better supervision, or get back into therapy themselves.

Stopdog, you definitely have a way with words! It's not that I tell her one thing (the woman has been trying to get me to open up to her for 3 weeks now) but post something different. I came on this site looking to see how other people get past the things they do (in an attempt to avoid going to therapy). Everything I read has made me feel better but also let me know I should go back.

[stopdog]

If so inclined, boldly go back to the therapist and unabashedly post here.

[tooski]

I really don't think any of us are as important as we think we are. The universe does not revolve around us.

Therapists have their own lives to live and better things to do than spending hours in this forum trying to figure out which posts might have come from one of their clients. If any do, perhaps they should consider another line of work.

[scilence]

I have my appointment at 10am tomorrow. I have to give myself a pep talk on my way there just so I can walk through the door. I do not like Ts! I'm so nervous when I'm there I don't remember much of what she talks about there. She tells me every time I look like a deer in the headlight and I look like I want to bolt out of the door. All I can think is 50 more mins, 40 more mins, 30 more mins...

[Mike_J]

I have asked the very same question....