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May 30, 2012, 03:52 AM
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As most of yu know I myself have been deeling with extreme intense feelings for my ex t for years.....But after a lot of thinking and talking to my current t, I am now ready to let go....I am ready to let go of all the wanting, craving, and feelings of intense need....My current t has said many times that it all boils down to what he represents to me.... And it hit me all of the sudden like a ton of bricks.....He represents caring, understanding, empathy, and a love that I toatlly missed as a child ( with my father ) .....Of course, I have my adbandonment issues as well, but in a nutshell he represented all that I wanted and was looking for in a father, someone to just listen to me and care for me ....I can't believe that it has taken me so long to finally see the light... But it does feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders....Maybe its all in the healing process and also all of the growing that I have done in therapy.....But anyway I just wanted to get this off my chest as I have really made a HUGE breakthrough with my therapy.....
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May 30, 2012, 05:27 AM
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That's fantastic! I am so excited and happy for you.
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May 30, 2012, 06:15 AM
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awesome job MO2G...that is a lot of hard work!
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May 30, 2012, 07:23 AM
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Good for you....as they say in AA.......DON'T LET THEM RENT SPACE IN YOUR HEAD
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Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich The road to hell is paved with good intentions. "And psychology has once again proved itself the doofus of the sciences" Sheldon Cooper 
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May 30, 2012, 07:49 AM
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I'm very pleased for you. I'm sort of in the same place - realising what T represents but also being ready to accept that and move on from it. The two things can be very different and need a unique amount of time to deal with. I'm glad you've reached the point of knowing it's okay and you can move on gradually.
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May 30, 2012, 08:05 AM
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thats wonderful-congrats♥♥♥
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May 30, 2012, 09:14 AM
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I find it impossibly cool when I have an issue that seems like I will never be able to change, and then I find myself in a different place with it, and I realize that change has been happening all along.
I am so impressed with, and so happy for you. It makes a lot of sense why you'd feel the way that you do about him, giving who he has been to you. In fact, I think it is normal for us to having loving feelings towards our T's, who provide us with compassion and hope and support and all those good things. But we do at some point need to let that go, and look for those things in the people around us, and from ourselves. I sometimes think of my T's (present and former) as stand-ins for the parts of myself that are not yet developed. I have leaned on them until I've grown myself up enough to let go. |
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