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Jun 07, 2012 at 03:14 PM
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In therapy today I told T I thought about her and my old T while on vacation. I told her I almost purchased something for her and old T as I saw something I think they both would have liked. My T smiled and said "thank you for thinking of me and nice to think of your old T but I'm glad you didn't because I can't accept gifts". I told her I didn't get anything because I felt a little silly about it and realized it wasn't my adult self wanting to do that. She then asked me if it felt like the 6yr old girl and I told her yes and she thought it was sweet and thanked me again.
She then asked me if I thought I put a lot of importance on therapists in my life. I told her no I don't think so? Anyone else have this question asked of them? |
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Jun 07, 2012 at 03:16 PM
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No as T is aware that she will mean a lot to me because of the work we do.
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Jun 07, 2012 at 03:42 PM
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No. My answer would be I never have before...but with the current T (not ready to call him exT) I guess a lot of importance, I just didn't realize it until now.
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Jun 07, 2012 at 05:27 PM
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Unfortunately my Ts don't have to ask.
 They know how much importance I put on them.
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Jun 07, 2012 at 05:31 PM
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That one I have seen has asked if I missed her after a long break that included her vacation and my cancelling a few appointments. I had not. She has announced that I am attached but she has not asked about importance.
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Jun 07, 2012 at 08:02 PM
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Jun 07, 2012 at 08:17 PM
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i have told exT how important she was to me (which ended up in abrupt termination
  )... my new T also knows what she means to me and that i'm attached to her. she says its okay and that she won't leave me over it  now i just got to trust her that she really isn't going to terminate me like exT
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Jun 07, 2012 at 10:23 PM
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My T knows how attached I am to him and how important he is to me. It's actually a pretty big part of our work, since most of my stuff relates to not trusting people and not letting them in my life.
He's never specifically asked about it, but we have discussed it. I've brought it up because it too me a while to get comfortable with my level of attachment. Actually, I wouldn't say I'm 100% there still, but I'm learning to relax into it. |
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Jun 07, 2012 at 10:30 PM
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Jun 08, 2012 at 06:36 AM
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Jun 08, 2012 at 06:49 AM
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Jun 08, 2012 at 07:50 AM
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Jun 08, 2012 at 08:00 AM
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@SeaSalt 'course there is the possibility that you could have a ****** T! (well, or at least one that's not a good fit for you).
But yeah... how do you know for sure? I swear my ex-T was really good for me, but every one close to me says he wasn't really. Do i trust their opinions or my own? I think they blame him for the SA but it wasn't his fault! It's complicated. |
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Jun 08, 2012 at 08:15 AM
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As I've stated prolly 400 times this morning
 I have a tendency to run. I really need to at least see her for a few more visits before deciding. One minute I wanna run, the next I wanna camp out in her office. I just remember having a gut feeling our first visit that she doesnt have a lot of experience with gay clients. She is trying to help me but isnt really being realistic IMO. I would love to run off to various cities meeting new women since we have no gay scene in my town. But that costs money. I am unmotivated and tired of the internet dating thing but long for a girlfriend.
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Jun 08, 2012 at 08:21 AM
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Jun 08, 2012 at 08:43 AM
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@stopdog but how do you define damage?
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