[lostmyway21]

He's so PROUD of me.

I graduate from EMT school next week. When he said that in session I felt so cared for and loved.

It's been one of our biggest goals since I started therapy 8 monthes ago, and this bipolar kid did it! I never thought I would be able to do it, with all my ups and downs BUT I did!

That's awesome, Lost! You should be so proud of yourself! What a huge accomplishment! [Can I be proud of you too, or is that weird?]

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

That's awesome, Lost! You should be so proud of yourself! What a huge accomplishment! [Can I be proud of you too, or is that weird?]

Why would that be weird? Of course you can be. I'd really appreciate it.

[stopdog]

Congratulations on your accomplishment.

'Cause you don't really know me. I know I got a little ticked off when my therapist said he was proud of me, so I thought I'd ask. LOL. I am SO proud of you because I know how hard you've worked and it wasn't an easy thing for you to do! You're amazing.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

'Cause you don't really know me. I know I got a little ticked off when my therapist said he was proud of me, so I thought I'd ask. LOL. I am SO proud of you because I know how hard you've worked and it wasn't an easy thing for you to do! You're amazing.

That's funny I feel like I've been waiting FOREVER to hear him say he is proud of me, and he finally did. Can I ask why it ticks you off, when your T says it? I'm curious.

Congrats LOST..... huge accomplishment.

[WikidPissah]

I am jumping on the proud band wagon. Good job lost!

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

That's funny I feel like I've been waiting FOREVER to hear him say he is proud of me, and he finally did. Can I ask why it ticks you off, when your T says it? I'm curious.

It completely pisses me off too.
I find it patronizing, condescending, and in no way the place of the therapist to be proud or disappointed in me. If the therapist can be proud (which is not their place to do for me) then they might also believe they have a right to be disappointed in me-which is not their place either.

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

That's funny I feel like I've been waiting FOREVER to hear him say he is proud of me, and he finally did. Can I ask why it ticks you off, when your T says it? I'm curious.

Definitely don't want to detract from your accomplishment by sidetracking this thread, so I'll pm that to you, Lost. Let's focus on how awesome YOU ARE!!!

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by stopdog

It completely pisses me off too.
I find it patronizing, condescending, and in no way the place of the therapist to be proud or disappointed in me. If the therapist can be proud (which is not their place to do for me) then they might also believe they have a right to be disappointed in me-which is not their place either.

Interesting I feel the opposite. I want T to feel both proud at my accomplishments and disappointment at my mistakes. As my T, I know he will always be understanding of my mistakes but it makes me work harder. I have him in a parental role. Maybe that's why it's different? I want to succeed to make him proud and then work harder at my mistakes not to disappoint him.

[bluemountains]

Congratulations, LMW! I am in the middle of a task I don't want to tackle, and you give me hope that I can do it.
Bluemountains

[SeaSalt]

Originally Posted by stopdog

It completely pisses me off too.
I find it patronizing, condescending, and in no way the place of the therapist to be proud or disappointed in me. If the therapist can be proud (which is not their place to do for me) then they might also believe they have a right to be disappointed in me-which is not their place either.

You've hit on something I've been thinking about. All this emotion swirling around the T/client relationship. And exactly how much is needed to further the therapeutic process in the right direction.

At this moment in time, I think for me to be able to accept a compliment from T properly, I would have to be at a certain place emotionally with her. And that kinda scares me. For all the joking I do about wanting to love her, I know that is a slippery place to be. Could end up being good - could end up being horrible. But at the place I am now, feeling neither love or hate for her (really not feeling anything for her at all), any compliments from her would be as you suggested and therefore unproductive.

I'm still tryin to figure out what T meant when she said that I was the most aware person she's ever met. I didnt take it as a compliment. She said it with a smile, but...

[unaluna]

Pocket riders for graduation!!!

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by SeaSalt

You've hit on something I've been thinking about. All this emotion swirling around the T/client relationship. And exactly how much is needed to further the therapeutic process in the right direction.

At this moment in time, I think for me to be able to accept a compliment from T properly, I would have to be at a certain place emotionally with her. And that kinda scares me. For all the joking I do about wanting to love her, I know that is a slippery place to be. Could end up being good - could end up being horrible. But at the place I am now, feeling neither love or hate for her (really not feeling anything for her at all), any compliments from her would be as you suggested and therefore unproductive.

I'm still tryin to figure out what T meant when she said that I was the most aware person she's ever met. I didnt take it as a compliment. She said it with a smile, but...

If your only three sessions into it right now, I think you have a lot more work developing your theraputic relationship. T's compliments at this point can be taken either way. They can be misinterpreted and misunderstood. Just ask for clarification. In the beginning I used to always follow up a session with...what did you mean by blah blah blah. And he would clarify. Normally he meant nothing, but I thought it was something huge. Trust your T to lead the way a little in the beginning. It's what I did, and we have an awesome relationship.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by hankster

Pocket riders for graduation!!!

Awww .. Maybe pocket riders for state exam?!

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

Awww .. Maybe pocket riders for state exam?!

you're gonna need cargo pants! anyway, congrats! I had to retake one part of my nail exam (the acrylic nails portion), and I did a lot better on the written portion than on the practical. but that's how I was all thru the course, so that made sense.

[WikidPissah]

When you put your mouth on Rescue Annie we will be cheering!

[SeaSalt]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

If your only three sessions into it right now, I think you have a lot more work developing your theraputic relationship. T's compliments at this point can be taken either way. They can be misinterpreted and misunderstood. Just ask for clarification. In the beginning I used to always follow up a session with...what did you mean by blah blah blah. And he would clarify. Normally he meant nothing, but I thought it was something huge. Trust your T to lead the way a little in the beginning. It's what I did, and we have an awesome relationship.

I hope I can get to that place, lost. I did nothing but yak and cry the first two sessions. She hurt my feelings twice (the same thing, twice!) And now this "you're too aware" thing. I will prolly roll to the other side and not say squat next session because she has me kinda paranoid about talking.

Yay lostmyway! Congratulations, I'm really happy for you, what a great accomplishment. I don't post a whole lot, but I read your posts and I think you sound like an awesome person who works so hard; it's really inspiring. All the best to you

[tkdgirl]

Way to go Lost!

[ListenMoreTalkLess]

Many congratulations, that is tough training and a tough line of work. But I imagine that it will also be meaningful and you will be making the world a better place by caring for people under these scary circumstances.

You're a tough kid.

congrats♥♥♥