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#1
Jun 27, 2012, 11:49 AM
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Okay so T is away this week-he said I could call-so I tried calling earlier and didn't answer but I didn't leave voicemail. Sooo I texted him-which I've never done-and I don't know if he allows it or not...now I'm soo worried he is going to be mad and say its crossing a line...here is what I wrote
Hey T this is Delicate - I have no idea if texting you is extremely inappropriate and boundary crossing? So if it is I'm really sorry and it won't happen again and you can be mad at me...but I know you said we could talk this week while you are away...I tried calling but y'all are probably doing something fun-and I wouldn't ask except I'm having a really rough day-really bad thoughts this morning-the most intense I've had in a long time...and my anxiety is high-and I miss having a session this week : ( if you could call me at some point today? If I'm at work then could you just leave a voicemail? Something to help me through this? I'm trying to hold on but it's tough : (
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Jun 27, 2012, 11:52 AM
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Ohh jeez what if he says he won't work with me anymore?
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Jun 27, 2012, 11:56 AM
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i really don't think he'll refuse to work with you anymore. he never specified the boundaries so he can't be angry with you if he doesn't allow texting. i think it will be ok. i hope he gets back to you soon though so you can stop worrying.
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Jun 27, 2012, 11:59 AM
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Jun 27, 2012, 12:33 PM
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Let's say it is crossing a boundary--but you sent just one text. You didn't know. You clearly really need to hear from him so you reached out in an available way, one that many therapists use so it's not unusual to think he might be okay with it. I'm sure all that would happen would be he'll explain that he doesn't text with clients--but it may be that he'll be fine with it, too. Either way, hang in there and I hope you hear from him soon.
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Jun 27, 2012, 12:48 PM
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Delicatefade, I am sure he won't give you the boot for one text, but since you now realize that may have been a boundary crossing, you can refrain from doing it again until you work out that boundary with him. In the meantime, if you need to talk with him again, can you just call, as the two of you agreed? If he told you it is OK to call, then I am sure it will be OK to leave a voicemail if he doesn't answer. I hope you hear back from him soon.
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Jun 27, 2012, 02:34 PM
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I doubt he is going to drop you if it ended up being any kind of boundary violation. I really hope that your T gets back to you and is able to help you out.
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Jun 27, 2012, 02:52 PM
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Even if your T is not comfortable with texts, what you have written sounds utterly respectful - I am sure your T will not be upset that you sent it.
Hope you can get some relief from that anxiety. Soup
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Jun 27, 2012, 03:01 PM
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I still haven't heard : (
I just want to know its okay now-before I was going to call and tell him and few things now I just need to know he is not pissed about text...
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Jun 27, 2012, 03:12 PM
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I don't really view a text as much different from leaving a voice message. They both get the same point across on a phone. I can't see it as something someone would get upset over and I am sure he wouldn't stop working with you.
One thought - are you sure the number you have is a cell number? Could it be an answering service he checks in with, or that he has forwarded to where he is at? I'm asking because if it isn't a cell (even if it's forwarded to his cell) then he of course wouldn't be able to receive the text. |
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Jun 27, 2012, 03:41 PM
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Alhtough, my husband accidentally texted my work number once. It left me a voicemail that read me the message. It was bizarre. |
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Jun 27, 2012, 04:01 PM
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Yeah I have his office and cell numbers-and I'm almost positive he gets texts (he has an older iphone)--but he probably is busy-I just hope he gets back to me at some point...
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Jun 27, 2012, 04:40 PM
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Jun 27, 2012, 04:50 PM
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thank you so much everyone for your responses...still waiting!! I got to thinking....T has never been mad at me-I don't think he will be about this either...I just would like to hear from him...I will let yall know if he does
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Jun 27, 2012, 05:38 PM
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My T called!!! we actually talked a while on the phone-the issue of the text never even came up...haha! I was able to talk to him about everything I wanted-and he told me a little about how their trip is...and I get to see him Monday : ) whew...I feel soooo much better! I'm so thankful for my T..I know not many would call their clients when they are on vacation! I can relax now!!
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Jun 27, 2012, 05:58 PM
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That's great! glad things worked out well for you.
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Jun 27, 2012, 08:00 PM
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I am so glad that he got back to you! I am also happy that he was able to help you!! You identified your need, and ask for help, and he helped! That is great work!
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Jun 27, 2012, 08:19 PM
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You asked for what you needed and T obliged. What could be better?
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Jun 30, 2012, 04:58 AM
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i'm glad you were able to talk
 i think you did well with the text also
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Jun 30, 2012, 04:40 PM
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im glad that it worked out
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