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Jun 28, 2012, 07:08 PM
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I had my monthly session today. Everything was going fine up into10 min and then T opens my file and wants to do a 90 day review.
I started boiling as he turned himself to his PC and started typing. He asked me if I had any pressing issues right now. I said, I am getting angry right now. He turned around all fast and said because of the review? I said yes. But, I said I have been very irritable lately anyway. So, he stopped and we talked. It was very helpful that I told him right there and then I was getting mad at him. I am proud of myself. And I left feeling good. 
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Jun 28, 2012, 07:16 PM
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Very cool. Especially since he responded like he should have.
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Jun 28, 2012, 07:29 PM
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I just want to jump up and down!!! I can't even talk! How awesome that you just SAID IT! That you felt it, and knew it, and said it! How WHOLE! Things like this don't happen to people like us
 
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Jun 30, 2012, 12:02 AM
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you did well
 ... i wonder, did your T apologise or understand what upset you about the review? was it doing one, or was it the way he stopped that way and turned a way from you?
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Jun 30, 2012, 12:38 AM
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good to hear
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Jun 30, 2012, 02:25 AM
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The reason why I was getting mad was because, I needed him to pay attention. I mean I understand we have to do that silly review and it's not a long process, but I needed him to listen. When he opened the file that is when started getting mad.
I see him once a month and when I go in I want that time for me, not just for the review. He did not apologize, but he fixed the problem by talking and then doing the review later in the session. My point was I would have been passive aggressive about it and instead i told him right there and then when it was happening. A huge step for me.
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Jun 30, 2012, 03:17 PM
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I am impressed! You identified how ou were feeling, why, and what you needed from him, and you asked for it. Nice!
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Jun 30, 2012, 03:54 PM
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Good for you! That is something I have a terrible time with, and I know how much courage it takes the few times I'm actually able to speak up. I know it took a lot of courage for you too, so bravo! Also, I'm glad you're able to feel proud - you deserve it!!!
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#9
Jun 30, 2012, 03:56 PM
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Good for you for speaking up for yourself! Thats impressive!
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Jul 01, 2012, 12:40 PM
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It's so great to read posts like this - thank you for sharing this, Tina! It gives me hope that can be possible to identify an unproductive behaviour before it takes place, and fix it in a productive manner. Well done!!
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Jul 01, 2012, 01:57 PM
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Yay well done! I know how hard it is to say how you're feeling at the time you're feeling it.
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