[ErinBear]

Hi,

I am meeting a possible new counselor tomorrow. I have a meeting with my present counselor, who is moving away on June 1st, plus a new counselor he is hoping will work out for me. The new counselor will meet with us for the first 10 minutes or so of the session and all three of us will be in the room. I hope it will go okay. I met with my current counselor to talk about it today. I am nervous about the meeting tomorrow.

I also think it was very nice of my current counselor and the new counselor to try to plan a group meeting - I appreciate that.

I'm still very nervous though.



Take care,
ErinBear

[magickal1]

I think it's very good that they're both doing that for your benefit! It may take some time for your new counselor and you to get acquainted, but this is a good start. Hang in there, good thoughts coming your way, sweetie! ((((ErinBear))))

[ErinBear]

Hi Magickal,

Thanks, yes, it is very nice of them...and I appreciate it very much. I also appreciate your good wishes for tomorrow! I just hope this goes okay.

It is going to be such a big change. sigh

Thanks for listening.

Take care,
ErinBear

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

You have so much that is changing Erinbear I admire you for being as positive as you are..I know its NOT easy....many would just sit and cry in your shoes...I am wishing and hoping for better days ahead for you...I think its cool of your T to do that but still
Hugs

I hope things go well with your the prospective new T. I hope that relationship is even more rewarding than you've ever had.

[ErinBear]

Hi Sleeps,

Thanks so much. Yes, I thought it was nice of both of the Ts to work this out, both my present counselor and the new one. But you're right, it is still very hard. And right now, I'm not sure how it will work out with the new one. I'd like it to work out but....I'm just not sure. But he thinks this is the best counselor for me of the ones he knows. So we'll meet tomorrow and see how that visit goes. It is scary though. I still wish my counselor could just suddenly change his mind and decide to stay in the area! LOL!

hugs,
ErinBear

[ErinBear]

Hi Esthersvirtue,

Thanks so much for the good wishes - I can use them! My relationship with my present counselor has been so good, it's hard to imagine it would be much better than this. But if it's even close, that would be great. I was so fortunate with this working relationship I had with my current counselor. I am really grateful we met.

Thanks again for the good wishes....

Take care,
ErinBear

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

((( ErinBEAR ))) LOTS OF HUGS and wags and meows are coming to you tonight so that when you wake this new T will be ok...It wont be easy and I wish your T would stay but give the new one a good chance odds are he/she is T approved and I dont think he would pick someone so far off his ways

[ErinBear]

Thanks, Sleeps, I appreciate it a whole bunch. And tell the furry ones at your place that I appreciate the woofs and meows of encouragement too!

Hugs,
ErinBear

[cherybery]

Erin! I know it is so difficult to change T's when you are so use to the one you have been going too. I hope things go well with your new one! I am a bit late seeing this thread so maybe you have already gone to your appt? Let us know how it goes!
HUGS
Cher

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

I wonder how it went

[ErinBear]

Hi Cherybery and Sleeps,

Thanks so much for thinking of me today. I had my joint meeting with the two counselors. I still think it was very nice of them to plan it. I liked some things about the new counselor. She likes animals - that was good news, because I really like animals too. It sounds like she has done a lot of work in her life that is very caring, even before she became a counselor, and that was very impressive to hear about. I don't know about this though. I just don't know right now.

I guess this is hard to discuss and hard to understand, but I have had bad abuse issues in the past with female people, and it is very hard to talk to a female counselor. I haven't done so. I'm not sure this will work, even though I know my counselor thinks this is the best match of the people he knows. He realizes it would be a problem that she is a female. I have done much better talking to people who are male. I'm not sure if I can work okay and feel safe with a counselor who is female. It felt really terrifying today, even with my current counselor in the room. If I don't see this counselor, unfortunately he doesn't know another one to recommend. I'd have to figure it out on my own, I guess. So it's a big problem.

Thanks for listening.

Take care,
ErinBear

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

((eb)) I am sure it wasnt easy....but can you maybe see her a few times and give her a note with your concerns...so that you both give it a try....in case it works out ...it may be worth a try.....?