[doogie]

Found out in my session yesterday that my T is switching offices with another T in her practice. I'm really freaking out about it. I feel like her current office is my "safe place" and I don't want to leave it. I cried and cried when she told me. Am I being crazy here??? She is even replacing the couch with a smaller one because the new office is a tad smaller. I just cry every time I think about it. What is it with the T room and attachment to that space?? Am I crazy?

I think crazy may be a bit too harsh a term. But you will adjust. It isn't the room that makes you feel safe; it is your time with your T that does that. T will still be there. Try to remember that.

[Perna]

No, you are not crazy! Discuss it with your T, it will help. My T not only changed offices after 7-8 years, but then, a few weeks later, we moved offices for good, across a couple states! That in-between office in the old building was horrible (a mostly unused conference room) and, at first, the offices (we kept changing them) in the new place were not much better. But then we got a room I liked better and it became our new office and I settled in; over time, it gets better, especially if you discuss it with T.

I remember when I called her new office building "sleazy" and we discussed that. It reminded me of the old WWII apartment buildings where my family was living when I was born, two-story brick, just kind of "tawdry" It was wonderful trying to describe a building so my T could see what I see and so I could understand my reaction!

Form a "unit" and bond with T so that you are in it together instead of you being in the room and T switching offices.

No, you are not being crazy. You probably had a strong emotional reaction to finding out about the change because, like you said, the original office is your safe place and now you are being taken out of that comfort bubble and being placed in an unfamiliar environment. I'm assuming you worked through some difficult feelings and situations/life events in that original office so it is normal that you may have some attachment to it. I feel very attached to my safe places for the very reason that I feel secure in them; when I'm in them, I'm in my own little world where nothing and no one can hurt me. But sometimes what makes a place safe and comfortable isn't the room itself, it's the people in them (i.e. your T).

Your T isn't changing, the room is. The original office was at one point new to you and you adjusted. I have confidence that you'll be able to do the same this time around and adapt to this change.