[healed84]

My last appointment with T will be a week tomorrow. Generally, I see him once a week, I won't be seeing him for about a month though.. Only b/c last week appointment was a rescheduled one, and I already had one scheduled for monday of this week. T didn't think I needed to see him so soon and told me to reschedule. Okay..

Well, I found out from his receptionist that he is booked for three weeks, and then the 4th week he is on vacation. I went back to his office to tell him that, he seemed suprised by that and said if I needed to see him during any of those weeks that I could call and he said he would move some stuff around and get me in. I am not in crisis, I am yes feeling depressed and he knew that my last appointment with him. I am not having panic attacks. I am just down, feeling like crying anytime.. my H and I are not getting a long at all and I am feeling so stressed out b/c of other things going on. I just don't know if all of those are important enough reasons to call and have him move his scheduled around before he goes on vacation. I am on the cancellation list, so there is a chance I could get called in next week before he goes on vaction, but I can't count on that. Should I call tomorrow and ask him to fit me in somehere? Is this a good enough reason?

Originally Posted by healed84

I am yes feeling depressed and he knew that my last appointment with him... I am just down, feeling like crying anytime.. my H and I are not getting a long at all and I am feeling so stressed out b/c of other things going on.

I actually saw my T today, just because I needed support. I'm not in crisis at all, not having flashbacks or panic attacks, etc...AND my son had surgery and I'm taking care of the needs of a lot of people right now and I needed some space where I could just "be" for an hour, to say whatever I needed to say and to have someone else support me.

T and I technically ended therapy almost 2 months ago, but I have seen him twice since then, for different reasons each time...neither time was an "emergency", but I was faltering and struggling and just needed solid, safe T to lean on while I found my footing. Both times I saw him, it really helped.

A month is a LONG time to wait for a session. You're not asking to be squeezed in when T is leaving in 2 days...it sounds like he still has three weeks before he's leaving to work with.

It sounds reasonable to me!

[skeksi]

He offered to juggle his schedule, and I'd take that at face value. You don't have to be in crisis to need T or for him to rearrange his schedule. I think for those of us who hate to ask for what we need, this is painful--but to him it's just his schedule, you know? He wants to be there for you, and changing the schedule isn't a big deal.

[WikidPissah]

Originally Posted by healed84

Should I call tomorrow and ask him to fit me in somehere? Is this a good enough reason?

I think it's a fine reason.

[kiki86]

yes i think that's a perfectly acceptable reason. give him a call and see what he can do. x

call, he wouldn't have offered otherwise! trust him on this!

[Crescent Moon]

Originally Posted by healed84

Should I call tomorrow and ask him to fit me in somehere? Is this a good enough reason?

I would. My therapist knows that regardless of how well I'm doing for a sustained period of time, if there is too big of a gap between our seeing each other, I'm at risk. About once a year or so, she goes out of the country, usually for about three weeks. There have been times we've had to go two weeks, and I can usually handle that. But three weeks can be a problem. I'm fine as long as nothing in my life starts crashing. But if something happens during that time - I can end up upside-down. Last time my therapist went out of the country, there was a little over four weeks between appointments. About a week in, life-situations became unmanageable for me. I couldn't pull myself out. By the time we saw each other again, I wasn't in very good shape. And I think in part, it was more problematic than usual because I'd been doing so well for so long, that she thought I was in too good of shape to have any trouble. In the past, when I was not as good at sustaining myself, she always made sure I had a way to contact her - usually by email. And she would check her email every couple of days, so if I did write her I'd get some kind of response that would help me hold it together. But this last time, I did email her (like a one sentence thing, but it indicated I wasn't in very good shape). But she didn't check her email. So I sunk lower and lower. I needed to "touch" her to regain my stability - and she symbolically "wasn't there."

So... if I were you I'd ask to be fitted in. Call it "crisis prevention"

[healed84]

Thanks all, I called he did not call back :/ Hoping he will on Monday.