[dizgirl2011]

Hi,

My T gave me an object from her T room, it's nothing big, I don't want to say what it is incase it makes me identifiable but for example, lets say it was a pen, because it was something pretty normal like that. I think T hoped it would help me feel safe or grounded to have something from the office that I could take with me and hold if I need it.

However I find the item fees a bit meaningless because it has no special significance and doesnt bring me comfort (just as a pen wouldnt). I was thinking of suggesting T and I make something in a session that I could take. I have no idea what? Any ideas?

Did T choose the object out of the blue, or was it something you have talked about before ?

[mjpurple]

how about one of those bead kits they have for kids? they sell them in the craft stores and they are relatively cheap

[rainbow8]

I bought 2 matching small stuffed bears, one for T and one for me. Hers sits in her office and I see it each week; mine is in my bedroom. Once when she went on vacation, she took mine with her; another time I took hers home with me.

We made a card together on my birthday once. I look at it when I'm feeling bad.

Any kind of art or craft would be a good idea, I think. Or what about something in writing? I like my birthday card because we each wrote in it. I was feeling depressed about my age so she wrote the good things about it.

[Perna]

Or, you could do something in session with the object, both you and T to make it meaningful? With a pen, for example, you could take a small piece of paper and T could write your name on it with the pen and you keep both. You could remember that T held and used that pen and thought of you as she did so and you would also have the "memory" of her making the memory :-)

[dinosaurs]

my t originally lent me a pen with his name on it but holding it made me feel similar to what you felt. when i explained that to him, he lent me his hanky instead and it has been a huge comfort over the years. it came out of his pocket, so it felt closer to him, but i also think that having something soft made a huge difference. it was lots more comforting. it's ok to tell t the pen doesn't help and try something else instead. the other thing is that when the hanky started to lose t out of it, he would hold it in session - putting more "him" back into it. it can help seeing t hold/fiddle with the thing.

My t has given me a few things out of her office and also a few things from her home, such as a doll that belonged to her daughter and a blanket someone made for her, things like that,some stuffed animals,, oh and some cross stitched things she made, things like that. We also have colored pictures together.oh, and weve taken pictures of us together, and saved them on our phones. Those things help a little bit while she is gone for so long.

[Willowleaf]

Mine gave me a crystal but it is hard and cold and doesn't help at all. Unfortunately I've never been able to tell her

Or perhaps you "hold enough" of T in mind that you actually don't need a transitional.

[lostmyway21]

I made a build a bear T bear and brought it to session. T kept it safe in his office for over eight months, and named him. I finally took it home with me and when I'm feeling really bad I hold him or sleep with it because I feel the safeness of the office from it. I do sometimes feel like I need to bring him back to the office for a few weeks though cause he loses that safe feeling after a while.