[Emptty]

Recently I've decided I want to switch Ts, find a new one because of boundary issues with my current T.

I want to slowly cut back to make it easier on myself. Sometimes I see my current T 5 times a week, sometimes we have two hour long sessions. How do I cut back without traumatizing myself? Has anyone ever tried this, what did you do to help soften the fall?

I have an irrational fear that if I miss a session, T will leave me.. the thought sends me into a panic and my depression and ocd gets really bad when I feel 'far away' from T.

[InTherapy]

I'm sorry things are rough for you right now.

The first thing I would try to keep in mind that just because something is painful or unpleasant, doesn't mean it will traumatize you.

From there, I would maybe limit session times to 50 or 60 minutes only. (Whatever counts as a "single" session for your T).

I think for a lot of us, lessening the contact we have with our T sucks and we hate it. So expect that reaction. Just be prepared for it not being easy, and try to find other activities to help take up your time.

I would also talk to your T about this. You don't have to mention finding another T, but wanting to be more self-sufficient and cut down on your therapy sessions.

5 a week is A LOT!

[WikidPissah]

(((empty))) This is going to be so hard no matter how you do it, but I think if you find another T right away it may be easier. I don't know how it can not be traumatic. Do you honestly think that you can go to t and not cross boundaries after all these sessions of crossing them? He may freak out at the thought of you leaving, thinking that you will report him or whatever. Please, call another T asap to discuss it with before seeing your T again. You are going to need a professional to help you thru this. I do think you are strong enough to get thru it, and I (and many others) will support you however we can.

I really think you need to completely cut off contact with your T. Continuing to see him is only leaving you open to further manipulation and abuse. This is going to be difficult to recover from even if you do this slowly; in fact, it may just create more problems as your T may very well become quite defensive when he realizes you are leaving and that he's being called on his horribly unethical behavior. It really would be safer for you to find a completely different T to start working with as soon as possible who can help you through this process.

Originally Posted by Emptty

Recently I've decided I want to switch Ts, find a new one because of boundary issues with my current T.

I want to slowly cut back to make it easier on myself. Sometimes I see my current T 5 times a week, sometimes we have two hour long sessions. How do I cut back without traumatizing myself? Has anyone ever tried this, what did you do to help soften the fall?

I have an irrational fear that if I miss a session, T will leave me.. the thought sends me into a panic and my depression and ocd gets really bad when I feel 'far away' from T.

Now if you were "in therapy" and your T were acting like a professional you could have just asked him on this one. That is not the case ( based on your other threads) So is this a healthy professional relationship that is given you the support you need? I know you talked in other thread about it being " your meth".....No one can come of meth by themselves AND if you want to come of any addiction you should run as fast as you can from the one providing that drug.
In my point of you and like other people have said. You need to get out and you need to reach for PROFESSIONAL help in irl. You can´t do this on your own. I so so so hope that you will contact with another therapist and see what happens. Also I hope that you will seek support here during that stage I know it will be very hard. There are alot of people in here who worry and care about you and will support you. You need a healthy new T and the longer you wait the harder it gets. You are eighteen and it breaks my heart to think of the consequences this will have. IT WILL NOT END WELL he is using the fact that you have a sex addiction, are young, vunerable and that you don´t really have a support system besides him in his favour. This is pure manipulation, control AND abuse. The fact that you react the way you do when you don´t see him and tries to justify whats going on scares me. Another T will be able to give you the support and help you so desperately need. Please try it

[WikidPissah]

also...just to add...it may be beneficial for you to consider a female t. Just for the time being.

[critterlady]

I think continuing to see him, even once more, is unwise. It's like a heroin addict saying they're going to cut down and expecting somehow that it will actually happen. I know it'll be hard, but you need to find yourself another T and start work with them right away to help you work on ending the relationship with your first "T."

Even seeing this man even once more will pile on more damage to you. Please don't do it.

[Butterflies Are Free]

It will be hard to do this, but I agree that finding a new T and cutting off contact with the old T is the healthiest thing for you. If things were different, you could cut back slowly but I don't think this I'd the case. I am sorry you are going through this.,,