It's over

Still feeling so confused about what happened and what she was trying to say to me. i feel like i blanked out cos i really don't remember large chunks of what was being said.

TBH i don't even know how i feel about going back, it's like the trust has gone.

I do this too when I am upset. But to be honest, this sounds like it would be a really good reason to go back and sort out what's what.

Thanks Pbutton, i have an appointment next week to go in. Some frank discussions to be had i expect!

I'm glad you were able to talk with her and work out a little bit of this still sounds really difficult though with understanding and working out what to do next

(((((((((( asiablue )))))))) I can totally identify with this, it's where I am right now. Trying to figure out how to continue doing the work, which I know I need, and protect myself from T at the same time.

Being aware of this hollow space where the trust used to be, feeling this need to keep T at a safe distance is all foreign territory to me, and I hate it. The work we were doing has come to a complete stop, all that keeps coming up is this.

Asiablue - you have to decide whether the work is important enough to keep trying, and if so, just keep trying; do what you can, and let the relationship be. I don't know how that works out, practically speaking, maybe it's different for everyone, but for myself I know it's what I must do. hugs to you

I forgot to add.... I still like and respect T, maybe far more than she can understand. That is such a big, big part of it, maybe why it all hurts so much.