[MASIMO]

Got to my appt to find a locked door. apparently T tried to text me with cancellation but i didn't receive. I called him and he said he was on his way home from. The mountains. That's why I didn't get his text. I FEEL so awful about this. Should I forgive and forget?

[stopdog]

If it were me, I would talk about it with the therapist. This was a failure of technology, but it still can feel bad.

[trdleblue]

I would have trouble with a no show as well. I'm sorry, and I hope you can work it out with your T.

[adel34]

That really sucks! Is this the first time something like this has happened? If so I'd be understanding, but still talk about it with him. If not, surely talk about it with him and say that it really does bother you. I hope you guys can work it out.

[Chopin99]

A no-show would really bother me. Admittedly, he said he tried to get up with you, but it still hurts. I don't think you should let this get to you though. Talk to him in your next session about how you feel. I'm certain something came up; it doesn't sound like something he'd do on purpose.

Since he really didn't do anything wrong, what is there to forgive? I mean, he did his due diligence to inform you. It wasn't his fault that the technology didn't work. He had no idea it didn't work at the time or I'm sure he would have found another way to contact you.

[gothika123]

You should probably forgive him. If he does it like a few more times then he's just a f*****g ********e>

I don't quite agree that he met the due diligence; we all know that txts get lost especially if you are in a remote area. If I have to cancel a seminar or a tutorial at very short notice I call the student(s) or, with longer notice, send them an email asking them to acknowledge that they received it. (Provided it's a reasonable number of students.) If a T cancels by txt and gets no reply, I would argue that they should also phone the client. It's common courtesy, and it is more than that because a cancelled T appointment can cause a lot more anguish than, say, a cancelled grammar tutorial.

I think I would say to T that if he had to cancel by txt again, to make sure you acknowledged.

Discuss it andifthe answer isn't satisfactory, move on.