Sweetest thing your T has done for you

put my shoes on for me when I couldn't do it myself.
stay late to see me
play in the sand with me
see me on her day off
e-mail with me to keep me feeling connected between sessions
not hate me when my behavior towards her escalates out of control and turns mean spirited.
has ultimate patience with me

Hi Silver Glitter,
Welcome to PC!
Great post.
With my new t, just her being there these past couple sessions, listening to me go on and on about my life and telling me over and over again how strong I am to be continuing to advocate for myself is sweet.
My VMT t (who I still miss like crazy, and automatically in ways still think of as my t0) has done so many sweet things for me!
Never giving up on me, no matter how difficult things got.
Holding me in her lap and encouraging me to cry and let my feelings out.
Saying "thank you" in a really heartfelt way when I tell her I love her.
Giving me a ring of hers.
Writing a song for me. (I wrote the words to a song for her, but couldn't find the right melody).
Something really sweet would be if she came to Chicago so I could keep working with her. I can only dream about that one I guess!

tucked me in

You guys/gals are lucky to have such nice T's. The only thing mine did was call me one Sat. because I was going to terminate. I have wished so many times that he would call me to see how I was doing after a rough session but it never happened. Does that mean he's not into me?

tuck me in

My previous therapist brought me some stuff when he went to Europe. He sent me a note when I moved.

I also used to arrange the magazines in his office because they were always a total utter mess. I found a classical music CD in one and he told me I could have it.

I think though that the kindest thing he ever did was be patient.

The sweetest thing my t does is provide consistency every session. She provides me the a safe place to explore feelings and emotions. That is what I needed most and although there have been some rough times along the way, I cherish that consistency.

she's said lots of sweet things but i think the best is how she looks at me with such concern and care and the way she listens and knows how to respond.

After a difficult situation, he contacted me first. If he hadn't, I probably would not have gone back to therapy.

My t texts me to tell me to have a great day... That itself makes me start my day off well

he gave me a picture of a rug in his office. i stared at it for years and then he gets a new one, so he gave me a picture of the old one.

he has come out to my car to get me a few times when i was too scared to come into his office.

and now each time i go, (he has two receptionist) he offers to make the appt for next week himself. he goes to the main office, gets his appt book and makes the appt for me.. i get very triggered at the office window. i think part of the reason he makes the appt himself is it avoids a phone call from me. i rarely will talk with his staff. it still makes me feel good. like it is an open invitation to return and he is giving me permission.

First, she's nuts....I can appreciate that....makes her easy to talk to.

Second, she knows I'm sarcastic...and I like to laugh...she can be just as sarcastic as I am....and she emails me some of the funniest jokes.

Third and most important to me, she flew to another city to meet my wife during a time of crisis....twice....to me thats pretty damn awesome....so now I'm kicking myself for doubting her.

The woman does consciously stay out of my personal space circle.

..... he keeps showing up and he hasn't kicked me out yet, in spite of all I've done to try to get him to do that. This is notable in itself. And much appreciated

Idk umm..

Calls me when he's on vacation
Goes on walks every session
Offers to buy me stuff at like Starbucks
He wrote he wouldn't abandon me on one of his business cards

My favorite was when he kept my T bear safe in his office for about 6 months while we were first building our relationship.

He made sure he could be here for me when he had to change offices and stayed in contact and made me feel secure through the transition. He told me i wouldnt be heartbroken when therapy is done. He made me a recording of his voice....and he's adding another exercise to it this week.... He loves me . He's patient with me. He lets me know that he thinks about me out of session by telling me stories about how I really make him think, or how he asked a friend about something I said....etc. He's thoughtful and bought tissue that doesn't fall apart because I didn't like that. He tells me I'm thoughtful and tries to help me feel good about myself. He never says don't call me or email me or that I'm too much. He says I'm very loving and caring and said the most loving thing I ever said to was him that he wasn't taking good care of himself, it showed him I really care. He really appreciated the card I made him for his birthday, a few weeks later he told me I was the only one who even knew so I knew he really meant it...I love him ! I'm not sure about this one, but I think he noticed I have been clock watching during our sessions and I noticed this last session it's turned away from me, so I can't obsess anymore, we run over a lot and I feel guilty about it.

He's really loving and supportive and helpful when I am emotionally stuck and just can't get out of my own way and listens attentively when I sob for an hour, but won't hang up until I'm calm. He's called me back after ten pm when I had a really bad panic attack...crazy vertigo symptoms like I never had before....he's the best. He is taking really good care of himself...(he's looking too good for me to focus lately)...so I don't have to worry...ok maybe this doesn't have anything to do with me , but I still worry less...he keeps me emotionally held. He knows it makes me feel secure to have someone direct me and give me things to do, so he gives me lots of homework. He's the best...I love my T

My therapist did something sweet today.
I wrote her an email today about some children in my class who are autistic, and how the kids with the worst disorders and behaviors always end up in my class because people say i have a "gift" for working with those kids. And these kids just latch onto me like i am their best friend.and it has been a very tough week.
My t emailed me back within a couple hours-- she usually doesnt get online on the weekend- and told me how i am just the best on the planet at working with kids and how i DO have a gift for working with disturbed kids and stuff like that. It was s very encouraging email that i read several times.

I just remembered...T emailed me when I was struggling once and told me I was a good kid with a great heart. I think that was one of the sweetest things he ever did for me.

She sat in on my first psychiatrist appointment because I was nervous
She specifically went out and found me something she knew I would love when she was on a trip (little inexpensive thing)
She told me I have a special place in her heart
She had inside jokes with me
She let me drive her car because I'm scared to drive and taught me how to do it

That's a big one.

True. We just looped the parking lot a few times but it was really nice.

ex-T told me a couple months ago (before we terminated) that if we did not have a therapeutic relationship, I was someone she would have as a friend.

My T has been amazing-so many things...he has made me feel safe, he has validated me and my experiences, he has heard me, seen me, made me laugh, connected with me, comforted me, prayed for me, believed in me, never given up on me, and the most important for me-he has loved me in a therapeutic way and a spiritual way-telling me that we are always connected <3

• spent the night in the house i was at to make sure i was safe
• hugs me
• tells me he cares very much abt me
• gives me "transition object" to keep
• bought me 2 journals, and other tacky inside joke gifts