[SilverGlitter]

I'm really new to this forum and I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing here. If I'm not allowed to post here, please tell me...
But I really really miss my t. She's so sweet and caring and pretty and I feel most safe with her but it's a couple of weeks until I can see her again. So, I think it would make me feel better to hear about the sweet things your t's have done for you. I like reading about all your t's

Mine takes me to my doctor's appointments for medications because she knows I'm too anxious to go on my own. She told me she's never done that for anyone else before. She gives me motherly advice, about things like removing stains from clothes. She brushes stray hairs off my face and wipes my smudged mascara off my cheeks when I've been crying. She told me that she wouldn't care about getting in trouble if I killed myself because she would be too devastated.

There's so much more. She's the same age as my mom and it feels like she's my second mom, but I could never tell her that.

What are the really sweet things your t's do for you? I don't know if I deserve any answers to this post because I'm so new, but I really do like reading about all your t's and it makes me miss my own t a little less.

Well Silver, T sounds like a keeper, as most here would agree that average T's are not as involved ( ie outside session activities) or touchy as yours. Heck some people don't WANT to be touched by T.

[granite1]

i think for me it was when she told me that i dont have to do that when i first said that i feel like SI,she said those arms are not for hurting like something she had seen on tv.she seemed to be really there for me durring a really hard few weeks

[Anne2.0]

My T was on vacation, or really he was at home taking off work, or a staycation.

I called him every day for the first five days, then I asked if I could see him before the next week's scheduled session. So he offered me the same day and time slot I would have had if he wasn't on vacation, and so he came in from staycation just to see me.

It was pretty sweet.

[AngelWolf3]

I was having a really horrible Monday and called her in a panic begging to have an extra session later in the week. She gave it to me, but then later called back and said she had to cancel it...but because she knew how messed up I was, she offered to come in to her office that day on her day off just for me! It was so nice, and i felt so special.

PS GREAT post, and you are fine! Welcome to PC, and yes, your T sounds like an amazing woman! I am happy for you!

[anilam]

Welcome SilverGlitter.
OK- warning may sounds strange for some ppl.
I asked about stg and he told me the naked (and rather unpleasant) truth- stg you wouldn't expect from a T (I don't want to share details here cause it'd be out of context and someone might misunderstood entirely). Anyway, it caught me off my guard- I thought I'll get some wishy-washy answer and was just buying my time with the question- and I asked why he's telling me this and he replied: Because I know you can take it.

[unaluna]

Before every session (for the past 2 years or so), he sets our dolls on our chairs, like THEY'RE sitting there doing tea-party therapy. Aside from it looking SO CUTE!!!, it feels very welcoming.

Welcome Silverglitter, This is the place to be if you like reading about T's
The sweetest thing my T did was call me in on a sunday, she doesn't work Sundays or weekends, she didn't charge me and she basically stopped me from killing myself and convinced me that things would get better. She was so kind and text me next day to make sure I was ok, Damn I miss T1

I have a hard time thinking of my T as "sweet", but I'll substitute kind and thoughtful for the adjective instead.

I guess what first came to mind is the night I called him and he stayed on the phone with me for over 1 1/2 hours talking me through what was going on. Usually our phone conversations are 10-20 minutes which is fine, but that night my world was crumbling and everything happening in my current world was clashing with everything from my past world. He went way beyond the call of duty that night and got me through it.

I contacted her one time in crisis and asked if I could see her - she made me an appointment for later the same day, then because she knew I was struggling financially she insisted on only taking half her fee for that session. As well as that, it was the first time I'd ever really reached out to her, something I was scared to do, and she made it okay There are rare occasions she's called me without me even asking her to because she knew I was having a hard time, and had quite lengthy conversations with me - those times have helped me feel genuinely cared for. I'm not used to anyone going the extra mile for me, so things like that mean a lot. She also lets me email her and will often send a thoughtful reply. There are many things she's said to me/wrote to me that I've found really sweet, too. The list could go on and on.

Welcome to the forum, SilverGlitter

[Indie'sOK]

SilverGlitter, those things are so sweet! I wish my T would do things like that for me, but it seems like it would be a bit weird because we are so close in age. I am 18 and she is around 28. Still, that would be awesome.

I can't really think of any sweet things my therapist has done. She's not really the nurturing type, but it's probably because she's more of a sister figure than a mother to me. I do want to get closer to her this way, but I'm afraid of how to bring it up.

[autotelica]

Oh, there are a million things.

She has brought me special gifts. She gave me very nice down coat once that I still wear. She has brought me food from home and magazine articles to read. She's got me hooked on spirulina--she brings me bottles of the stuff whenever I run out (and it's so expensive!) She's given me tons of rides home too. She knows she is my emergency contact just in case I need a ride from the hospital.

The latest nice thing was that she got me into another shrink's appointment book. I know many therapists leave that kind of stuff to the patient, but mine is never hesitant to be my advocate and make calls on my behalf. She's even cussed people out for me!

But the nicest? It's hard to say. One thing I remember her doing was a few years ago. She kept saying I was beautiful...if only I would put on some make-up. So she whipped out her rogue and touched up my cheekbones for me. It was the first time we were so physically close before, and I was so touched by it that I emailed her to thank her right after the session.

She's the greatest.

Oh yeah, I forgot that she came to the "grand opening" of my sidewalk vending business. The whole venture had been complete surprise for her; I hadn't told her about my plans at all. I was talking to some customers when she strolled up. She planted a big kiss on my forehead and casually walked away. I'm sure the people were all "WTF!" at the random old lady.

[minneymouse]

Welcome

My T has just come back after a two and a half week holiday. Before she left, I told her my plans for the time she'd be away, including visiting a friend in another city and riding on an open top bus. When I spoke to T today, she told me that on the day I had planned to go on the tour bus, she had checked the weather for the city I was in, to see if I would be able to go (I wasn't- it was raining- of course!!).

I love this thread.

My t has done so many sweet and caring things i just cant count them all.
Some of my favorites are:

Gave me a birthday party, with presents and cake and stuff
She gave me one of her daughters hand made dolls
She gave me her dog to babysit while she is away for a family emergency
She gave me some special things out of her house that she made, to help me feel closer to her while she is gone
Super long (4,5,6 hour) sessions if we are working on something really intense
Bought me ice cream, Knows me well enough to get order for me at fast food places
Etc,etc

I miss her so much.

[KazzaX]

I would say the coolest thing my T does is, if at one session I go off and have to leave, she is always there the next week. She doesn't make excuses to end therapy like all the previous Ts ive had. She keeps on truckin'.

[SilverGlitter]

Thank you for all telling my about your t's It's made me miss my t a little less because reading your posts remind me of some of the things she's done for me.

It sounds like you guys all have really great t's and I'm really happy for you! It's nice that lots of you have nice moments with your t's.

And LolaCabanna, I know some t's wouldn't do things like this (I've figured that out from reading other posts here) but I think she's okay with doing those things for me because she knows that's what I need sometimes and that I would never cross her boundaries. Normally, she actually has to encourage me to email her about the things I couldn't say in session!

And IndiesOk, I'm sorry that you don't know how to bring it up with your t. Unfortunately, I have no great ideas because it was something my t just started doing on her own, once she figured out the sort of person that I am.

[Miswimmy1]

Your t sounds great!

My t goes on vacation a lot, but she gave me her email (not a lot have it). She took her vacation to a ranch this year where she tells ppl that there is no service, but she emailed me every day and that was nice. She texts me everyday and emails too she gave me a stuffed animal that is usually in her office that I luv, she surprises me with chocolate (hiding it aroun the room), she answers all of my questions (unrelated and related to the task at hand) I luv her so much! She says that she will do whatever she can to make me feel better, and that she will never ever lie to me or say something that isn't true. She genuinely tells me how she likes me and how she really misses me when we can't meet. Also this week, she let me come 4x

At my first appointment, I was very, very nervous. My therapist noticed and asked, "What can I do to help you relax?'' I replied, "Do you have any hard candy?" She replied, "No. Oh, wait!" She left her office in search of some candy and returned with a bag of Life Savers. Wow. I was impressed.

She is quite thoughtful. I find it surprising at times, since she is a psychiatrist.

[rainbow8]

There are two, and they both have to do with my birthday. The first year I saw her my session fell on my birthday. I had told her ahead of time, so I thought maybe she'd give me something. When the session was almost over, I asked her and she said that she never gives her clients birthday cards. I felt very sad when she told me that. So, with about 10 minutes left she suddenly brought out paper and markers and said we were going to make a card together! It is one of my favorite birthday cards!

Last year we decided that it wasn't good for my T to email responses to my emails, unless it was about scheduling. Soon after that decision was made, my birthday came up, and it was NOT a therapy day. I was so, so surprised when I got an email from my T wishing me a very happy birthday and telling me she broke the rule for one day because it was my birthday!

[skeksi]

After about a year with T, I found the guts to say that I did not like the psychiatrist he'd referred me to (I'd never been able to tell her the whole story to begin with). My PTSD symptoms were awful and I needed sleep medication desperately. I was terrified about having to try to explain my story to a new doctor and asked what I had to say in order to get what I needed, and T gently offered to write a letter explaining everything.

I was completely unable to be open with a new person and he got me the help I needed. I'm grateful for that kindness.

[critterlady]

I think the best thing T has ever done for me is to reassure me again and again that he'll be there for me as long as I need him to be. That he'll never let me push him away and he'll never push me away.

[Eliza Jane]

T1: offered me a hug about 3 yrs into our work because she just really felt for me (I had assumed hugs were off limits and never asked), shared that she had a dream in which she was driving with me to visit my family and said that that must really show how much she wanted to protect me, gave me her sister's phone # when she was going for a visit and wasn't sure she'd have cell reception (I was in crisis), exchanges letters with me to this day

T2: hugs me at the end of the session, bought me a (self help) book when I got my degree, looked up my wedding registry online and bought me a gift.

I feel thankful for these two great women.

Best,
EJ

[Miswimmy1]

My t calls me outside working hours (lengthy calls too) for no extra charge- there is usually a fee for anything over 5min, and she gave me my fav animal to sleep with at night, because I was in crisis and she knew that I wanted a hug (but since I have an issue with touching)... She has brought me breakfast (yes she knows my fav meals) too

[rainbow_rose]

i was touched when she wished me a happy birthday at my session on my birthday.

[CantExplain]

The sweetest thing my T did was to forgive me - over and over again.