So remember I had my last session with my t last week, well u rang of to say we had another session left! She had mixed something up and thought we had done our six but really we had only done five! So I went in for my session and t apologised for the mix up!
She asked about everything like my mom Joe how I waS feeling about everything, she was very nice as always but the thing that confuses me is that she tells me about her private life all the time and told me she would miss me a lot and she feels close to me! She asked for a hug at the end and told me to keep in touch and ring her anytime! I am confused!

[Miswimmy1]

It kind of sounds like she has some countertransferance issues going on... I don't know enough about that, but I think it would be something to talk with her about if it bothers u. (but if that was your last session, I don't know if u will see her again)

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

It kind of sounds like she has some countertransferance issues going on... I don't know enough about that, but I think it would be something to talk with her about if it bothers u. (but if that was your last session, I don't know if u will see her again)

Yeah, I mean maybe she does maybe it's because of her affair that she connects to me on some level! She said that if I needed to see her again she would be so happy to work with me! It was such a different experience to my last t that I am so very confused as yo what. Therapy is supposed to be! This t loves hugs, she tells me so much about herself with out me asking Joe is the exact opposite to my last t even though they are the same kind of therapists and t2 is t1s supervisor!

[missbelle]

Not very professional of her to tell you anything about her life. The sessions were suppose to be about you not her. She needs to find her own therapist! Shame on her!

[adel34]

I agree with Misbell, she really shouldn't have been saying anything about her private life at all, never mind feeling really comfortable talking about it with you! And I think it was weird that she asked for a hug at the end, almost a role reversal like she was the client! I think she needs her own therapist, and I honestly wouldn't want her supervising anyone. If you want therapy again, I'd look for someone else. I've experienced a therapist disclosing way too much, and it's nuts. At first it feels good because you feel special and close to her, but then it just gets way too out of hand, and you realize that she's doing it out of her own need for attention and connection, and it's just terrible! Sorry you had to go through this.

[sesame]

It just sounds to me like she liked you as a person.

Different therapists have different policies on personal disclosures. I assume that, what she told you, she did in relation to something you had told her -- likely not to use you as her therapist, but for you to better relate to her.

Also, in regard to her giving you a hug, I think it was her way of providing closure on a positive note. Regarding her telling you to keep in touch and call anytime, I'd interpret as that being related to her caring for you as a client, regardless of whether or not you're presently continuing services.

Why is it that there were only six sessions? Something with insurance coverage? In that case, I'd assume that when your behavioral health coverage period resumes, if necessary, you could begin seeing her again.

I mean, on a personal level, I could partially understand you being confused, but I see nothing outstandingly inappropriate. I think maybe she was just being nice and genuinely did enjoy getting to know you.

She disclosed becauSE She thought it would help me and it did! She has helped me more than anyone else even m8 last t who I waS seeing for 1.5 year's she said to me that after she hugged me our second hug that it's sad tics I probably haven't had as many hugs as I deserved :-)

I only have six sessions because of insurance but I can go see her privately if I wish! The thing that confuses me is that it feels like she wants me to like her to fall in love with her but t1 didn't do hugs or be be nice or self disclose and I fell madly in love with her!

[stopdog]

It is not unusual to feel love for someone who listens and helps.

Originally Posted by stopdog

It is not unusual to feel love for someone who listens and helps.

Now because t2 war so unbelievably nice to me I can't stop thinking about her! I don't think therapy works for me! And it is unusual for me stop dog because I hate talking about myself or anyone giving me attention but I like when ts do it but that's all! I don't think therapy works for me:-(