how long?

I do understand the confusion as to when you have tried enough or if one is somehow just not giving it a chance or doing it right. Certainly my constant internal battle. Plus all the maxims can be contradictory -
Is it stick it out through the tough times or quit if it is not working?
Take your medicine like a woman or if it does not taste good, spit it out.
And so forth

Two Ts - definitely in ********tery.

Stop dog, there is no 'doing it right', if therapy doesnt work it is not your fault. Sometimes it's not even the t's fault either. Sometimes the approach doesn't work or the personalities clash. There is a multitude of things that can make therapy not work out. It is more of a case of knowing in yourself whether or not you can connect and open up to a t. If the answer is no. Then is it worth paying out or wasting your time over?
It is a very personal decision. But I just wanted to say that you can't do therapy wrong

Lolacabanna,
You made me lol I probably would have said 'do you know what patronize means?' i tend to get patronised a lot because I look between 12-15 not 26 lol

Frau T's response:

Trauma T is seasoned, well known and highly respected. I am certain that she has many other modes of therapy. Would you sit and talk with her about this next week? I think it is very important that you speak up for yourself. Would you call me back after that and let me know how it went? I will gladly refer you to someone else if you are still uncomfortable at that point.

How do you feel about that, Wikid? It sounds to me like you have ALREADY done this and it didn't go well.

I would try again telling frau t very directly that one had tried being direct and new t failed and that you still want another referral.

call her back and tell her YOU ARE trying to stick up for yourself and this lady isn't working.

I have to give the Frau credit. She's right, I haven't stood up for myself. I did not out and out tell the t is was unhelpful or ask if she had an alternative. I didn't tell her that I found her "interjection" to be patronizing. I am so worried about insulting the woman that I am willing to walk away rather than be heard.

I told Frau that I would do that. Now, I just need a script for next week.

(you people are so damn helpful...thanks)

Well - good that you recognize you have not been super direct with new t and for being willing to try.

Okay...I had to look up introject and interject just to make sure I wasn't an idiot

Wiki... its your therapy... she's on probation.... like a new employee.. think of her that way and then maybe you won't worry too much about insulting her...

rofl. Too funny Ready...good to see you.

Wiki,
Is this T listed on Psychology Today or other sites? sometimes they list the types of therapy that they do. Lots do more than one type...

No, unfortunately very few t's here are listed on websites (other then my health insurance providers list). The ones that are listed on Psych Today (or others) have turned out to be wackos. (Reference to Mr. AOL, his perpetual nastiness)

well in a sentence I wouldn't even say interject, I would say interjection, and I didn't even think of intrOject until 2or3 mentioned it, but I do think it makes more sense for her to mention introject than interject. and that is one of my favorite concepts, the FOO being the negative introject we can't get out of our heads. T tells me every session that I look at - treat - other people as if they are my mother - it's disconcerting.

T: "wiki, you are resisting, let me interject...do you know what interject means?"
Me: "interpolate"
She sighed.
Me: "cram it down my throat?".

Yep, that pretty much sums it up. So I am certain of the word. Yea, I know I was being snarky. But she started it.

Being told I am resisting does not, without more, make me want to not resist. I hate their effing labels.

Did the woman ever tell you what she was wanting to interject?

She was labeling parts of me, and I believe in that particular session we were dealing with a "part" that she dubbed "frazzled". I kid you not. She asked me what was going thru my mind and I think I said it was aberrant. She didn't like that, and then said that aberrant was another part. (still not joking). At some point I said that I felt ridiculous, that's when she said I was resisting. Her interjection was that I needed to look at parts therapy in a different way. There was a purpose and a point and that if I gave her a few weeks it would prove out. Then she went back to talking to "parts" and asked to speak to the resistance.

LOL - cuz I defiantly woulda criticized her for mispronouncing introject! luv the "cram it down my throat?!" there are not many people I would have more fun in their session than mine, but I think this was one of 'em!

Is parts therapy the only trick in her bag? That sounds quite narrow. Surely she does not think someone who is against parts therapy or who finds it silly is going to not be resistant to it.
I suggest finger puppets.

I'd much prefer toe puppets.

I know I would feel just like you Wiki and I know I wouldn't be able to keep the sarcasm to myself either... I think I would break out giggling when she was naming the parts...

but do you think you could just ride with it for a few weeks? Maybe say to yourself if at 12 weeks (total since you started seeing her) I don't get this parts thing and I don't see where its going then I will stop...

for me I would have to read everything there is about parts therapy in order to decide if I could logically accept that it might work and keep the laughter at bay...

for me I've learned that if something makes me uncomfortable in T (not talking like Dr AOL uncomfortable) it might be just what I need... could you deal with being a little less in control in T? (good question for myself too)

BTW, I've never used dictionary.com so much as I have reading this thread... I was thinking of using this thread as a tool for my son to study vocabulary for SATs.

less in control.
hmmmmm, I will excogitate that.

(Sorry, couldn't resist. Usually this is stopdog's issue, not mine. )

Anyhow, I have read a lot and it makes no sense at all to me. I gave it a few weeks, I don't have a ton of time to waste on this. Hopefully she will say, "well then, I can't help you". And then the Frau will say, "it's ok wiki, I've changed my mind. You aren't too damaged for me to help".

As Can't Explain would say: fantasy dialog.

I wish that would work out for you but what if it doesn't? will you be giving up on an opportunity that might work?

just questions to think about... for myself I stopped seeing my psychodynamic therapist because it concentrates too much on past and the relationship but my marriage is so out of control... I couldn't deal with the here and now being so screwed up and then I'm going to make it worse concentrating on how screwed up past was too... so now I'm seeing someone eclectic and CBT to work on boundaries...when my here and now stabilizes maybe I will go back to dealing with the past.

Everyone has to decide what is best for themselves..but after typing this I can hear xT saying that the past is what affects your here and now.

Well, there is a great deal of foot fetishry on this forum it seems. So toe puppets would probably go over big.

AND Less in Control??? ACK ACK ACK.