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#1
Nov 07, 2012, 10:14 PM
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This isn't really T related, but I thought I would put it here.. I know you all, dare say trust you all.
So, anyways.. I am having a harder time with people pointing out when I do something wrong. Whether I acutally have done something wrong or the other person is mistaken. I had a big issue with sending my daugther back to school less than 24hrs after having a fever... I guess it is a big no, no. Her teacher was the one who brought it to our boss (I work at the same school my daughter goes to) and they came to me and told me she needed to go home. After that, I just couldn't look her teacher in the face.. I couldn't face her. As a result she thought that I was mad at her. I screwed up.. it felt so shameful. It is such a stupid reaction, to something so small. Does anybody else have such a strong reaction to being wrong??
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#2
Nov 07, 2012, 10:28 PM
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man, I just had to be CALLED to my boss's office, and my brain would go kerplunk. It could be for nothing, or a compliment, and i'd still be sick. I finally figured out it was because my mother used to scare the crap out of me, even before I could remember. I couldn't even pay my bills because they felt like an accusation, ie from my mother. i'm still not completely in touch with this fear of mother, it's kind of vague, but I am getting better at not reacting so badly to my mail! man, you must have been at the 20-hour mark - that seems ridiculous to me. but a grumpy look on a supervisor's face would devastate me, even though it was usually not even about me. I think it's about boundaries.
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Nov 07, 2012, 10:38 PM
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Yes I do.
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#4
Nov 07, 2012, 10:46 PM
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Yes. HUGE, over the top reaction. Cannot handle it at all. At. All.
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Nov 07, 2012, 10:46 PM
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I understand this feel as well.
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Nov 08, 2012, 12:46 AM
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Oh yeah. Not so much anymore, thankfully. But my mother was a perfectionist and heaven help you when you didn't measure up. And the rules of the game would change dependent upon her mood at the time, so I just never knew hour by hour what "perfect" was. Her anger was very scary, so it has been hard for me to hear that I'm wrong about something without dissociating in anticipation of the anger I've always expected to be there--even when it isn't.
Anger in general can still be a trigger. I try to avoid drama in my life as much as possible to limit my exposure to anger. I don't have any problem feeling and expressing it myself though when it would be productive. |
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Nov 08, 2012, 01:35 AM
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oh gosh YES.i feel so much shame, disappointment in myself,etc.
i am really sorry you felt so bad. |
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Nov 08, 2012, 06:59 AM
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Yes, I have a strong reaction to failure. I actually did last night. I'm in college and had given a presentation with two other girls. The class is divided in groups and each group must give a presentation. After the presentation, everyone has to post on a discussion forum basically giving feedback. Everybody said that the last part of the presentation (given by the other 2 girls) was better than the first part (given by me). This set me off in a major way. I'm still feeling the effects this morning...
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Nov 08, 2012, 07:00 AM
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i have this kind of reaction every time i think i have done something i see as horribly wrong. i end up thinking the world hates me and sets off a huge chain reaction in my world. when the reality is that it is all in my head and a complete overreaction on my part.i still have no idea how to stop this in it's tracks as it is happening .i hope someday i will it is a crappy feeling.
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Nov 08, 2012, 11:05 AM
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This sounds really hard. Try not to beat yourself up about your reaction too.
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Nov 08, 2012, 11:09 AM
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Most definitely have that reaction. Yes. 1000%. I can't believe her teacher went to the principal(?)/boss before coming to you first! If you were not employed at her school, the teacher would send the child to the nurse and the school would contact you! Why should it be any different because you work there? Other than convenience, of course, but she should have gone to you first, in my opinion!
So I can totally see where one would feel small in this instance! I am so sorry that you were put in that position!
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Nov 08, 2012, 11:16 AM
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Yes, I have the same reaction when I do something so simple.
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