[gon3withth3wend]

I was on my way to T yesterday, and I was having a very bad day already. A bunch of stuff was just going wrong, and I had a lot of work to do at home, so I was stressed, especially because I go to T at a time where I have lots of traffic to get home. So I kind of started hydroplaning. I also almost got hit by another car, and took these things as signs that I should not go to T. I turned around and went home. I was also worried because my T used to send reminder emails to me, but she stopped. I worried for some reason that she wouldn't want to see me. My T contacted me and asked if I was okay. I'm not really sure what to say because now I feel bad that I didn't go. I thought I would just told her I forgot, but I'm not sure. I don't want to make her angry!

[mixedup_emotions]

There is no value in telling your T that you "forgot" if it isn't the truth. I'd imagine a lot can be gained by exploring all of the feelings that led up to your decision not to go to your session and how you felt afterwards. Lots of value there that ultimately may tie into many other things. Lying does a disservice to you and your relationship with your T, in my opinion.

[Miswimmy1]

Just be honest. I don't think she will be mad... I think she will be thankful that u were able to tell her the truth

[gon3withth3wend]

If she called me, would it be the right thing to call her back? I always hate talking on the phone when I've done something wrong. It makes me so nervous. I feel like I'd rather email her, but is it rude to email her when she called me? Do I contact her now, or just tell her next session?

[Miswimmy1]

Yes contact her. It's up to you whether u call or email but u should get back to her as soon as u can... If someone calls me, I call back. I usually do however they reached me... I think it will help you to hear her voice, so that u can know that she isn't mad, as so much can be misinterpreted in email

[ECHOES]

I'm sorry you were having such a day, and I'm glad that other car didn't crash into you - that is very scary to have happen! But they are just frightening events, and not signs that you should not go to therapy.

Maybe it is the email reminder issue that makes you feel like there is a sign or hidden message?

Talk with your therapist about all the things in your post - it is all important.

I have blown off therapy before, in my 5+ years of therapy. In fact I just did it last week, when I only had one session because of the holiday. I let her know in advance that I wasn't coming, but I have also decided at the last minute to not go. She has never been angry about it. She might, if I made a habit of it because it would inconvenience her as far as her scheduling (for example if I am the last session of the day, or if another patient was needing an emergency session, etc).

She's always just been curious about what was going on and we talk about it. I always come away feeling relieved and understood, and with a better perspective about what was going on and how I reacted.

We are human beings, we are not "model" patients. We have a wide range of emotions, and reactions and therapy is just the place for talking about all this