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#1
Dec 03, 2012, 02:24 AM
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I read being in the moment helps a lot but I still can't seem to have a clear head.. I can't free myself of my negative thinking- racing thoughts. Its almost like i'm just a negative person by nature
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Dec 03, 2012, 02:49 AM
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I find it helps to tell myself: concentrate on the next step. Look no further ahead than that.
Long term vision is nice to have, but you can do only one thing at a time. Do that. When you've finished, there will be time to think about what comes after. Also, put your health first. Never skip a meal. Make a regular time for exercise, and make it a priority. When you clock off, stop working. Charlie Brown talks about dreading only one day at a time. It sounds like a joke, but actually it is very good advice!
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Dec 03, 2012, 10:52 AM
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Quote:
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Dec 03, 2012, 10:53 AM
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My T was really helpful at teaching me ways to interrupt the negative stream of thoughts. It was almost like I'd gotten into a habit of thinking certain things over and over -- like my brain was in a rut. When I found myself thinking one particularly horrible thing over and over, I would picture my grandmother smoothing her hand over my forehead the way she did when I was sick. Just stop and think of that for a second. The horrible thoughts would come back, and I would think of my grandmother's hand again. It sounds silly and too simple, but it was really helpful to me.
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Dec 03, 2012, 10:59 AM
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In cases where I am having a lot of repetitive thoughts or worries, instead of trying to stop them, I just assign a part of my brain to do the thinking/worrying and have that go on in the background so it doesn't interfere with what I am doing in the moment. I visualize it like throwing a dog a bone and letting them gnaw on it as much as they want in a corner of the brain somewhere. So the need to think about this topic is not thwarted but it doesn't take center stage and interfere too much with what I need to get done in "real life." I can feel the brain "gnawing" on the topic somewhere distantly but it doesn't cause impairment. And sometimes that distant gnawing actually results in solutions that I find helpful and then they pop into my forward mind--case solved! Nice doggie.
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Dec 03, 2012, 12:41 PM
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Yeah, don't fight the thoughts, make a truce with them.
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Dec 03, 2012, 12:56 PM
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I hav the same issue, although for me i feel like i can't win. Like I can be in the moment. but then I forget about all the things I hav to do. And that makes me even more anxious in the long run because then I am panicking about all the things that I forgot. Oh the joys of add and anxiety...
I am interested in what others have to say on this...
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Dec 03, 2012, 03:10 PM
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I had to teach myself to break the habit. I had to repeatedly catch myself getting caught up in the cycle, tell myself to STOP and look at what was happening in that very moment. OVER and over and over and over and over and over and over. .... and over and over and over and over and over...
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Dec 03, 2012, 03:22 PM
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Pema Chodron says "lean into" the thoughts rather than trying to force them to go away or ruminate on the fact that they are not going away.
I have found that mindfulness exercises, meditation practice, and general reading by various gurus of all flavors of buddhism has been very helpful. A good way to start is to google mindfulness and check out books at the library about meditation. 2 meditation sources that I have really liked are Jon Kabat-Zinn and Insight Meditation (can't recall the author, but that's the name of the book). I really like books by Pema Chodron (very easy to read) and Chogyam Trungpa (not quite as easy to read, but lots of good stuff in there). For mindfulness there is all kinds of stuff on the web, I really like the resources at UC San Diego's Mindfulness Center: http://health.ucsd.edu/specialties/m...s/default.aspx |
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