did you do small talk before you got into things more? is a lgsw qualtiefied enough?

i feel she ignoring alters hurting me i even showed her pics andthen i was going to talk aboutmre about it an shes like well i was going to change the subject but go ahead an she practically let me talk about recent events the whole time

is this cause shes trying to knkw me or get me to trust her or what help?what do you think?

Maybe because you wanted to talk about it and that is important?

im changing therapists

I dont like small talk. so I just sit down and get started. t follows my lead.

My T goes by the rule that we talk about whatever I want to talk about.
Her mkain contribution is to turn the conversation back to me.

Eg: (FANTASY DIALOG)

Me: Look! A squirrel!
T: What do squirrels mean to you?

is it weriod to fear how my t looks or is it part if anxiexty?

It takes a while to trust someone, especially a T. Give yourself a chance to trust without over analyzing everything. Talk about what you want to talk about, or what you find easier to do. I sometimes talk about my pets instead of other things just because it's easier to get my feelings out that way.

She's getting to know you.
Anything and everything is for talking about in therapy.

When T doesn't respond the way we wish they would, then that is something to talk about then or the next session or whenever you might want to talk about that.
I think it's important to talk about those times as soon as possible. What about talking to her about what you posted? It would be a way for her to know more about you.

Are you afraid that she changed?

Weird? No, many of us began with a lot of fear about what our T would think of us, if our T would become angry with us.

T's understand how hard therapy is. Can you talk to her about these things?

My newest T started with mainly small talk. Like about Family Guy or whether you are supposed to call drag queens shes or hes. We figured Shes when in drag and Hes when out but RuPual's Drag Race has him doing it all kind of ways. So the small talk was to help me loosen up and be able to talk about things to him. There are still things I haven't talked to him about, just hinted a little. I would say a session is about 40 min serious and 20 min non-serious, give or take a few minutes. I like it that way.

My T and I rarely make small talk and when we do, it's for just a few minutes. Most of the time, he settles into his chair, picks up his pen and clipboard and waits for me to say something.

If it looks like I'm not interactive that day then yes we do a lot of small talk. Same with if my defenses are up. When I'm finally participating T has an ability to morph the conversation into something I need to talk about or she needs more information about. I write through out the time I'm not in therapy and do a a mood chart so she knows exactly what she's walking into each session.

LOL, CE, I would go arrrrrrrrgh!!!!

(SAWE's FANTASY DIALOG)

SAWE: Look! A squirrel!
T: What do squirrels mean to you?
SAWE: Oh, not squirrels in general, T, just that this particular one was right on the windowsill looking in. Maybe he was hungry. Well (dusting hands off), I just did a good job of derailing that conversation. and about time, too. That was painful.

Now that i think of it, I have used lines like this twice in two weeks. And without the benefit of a window! Hmmm, thanks for a small light bulb.....