T refers to gay/lesbians as your kind

I remeber that quote too Can't explain and I remeMber who said it and being horrified. We are all here to learn off each other and if we can't be tolerant of someone not knowing our culture just because they don't mix in those circles...what is the world coming to?

Say it LOUD! Say it PROUD!

Me either
Care to Explain, Can't Explain????

Its a woman who likes to be licked (if you know what I mean) but won't lick you back.

And I only know because I googled it.

Regarding the bold part, yikes! It sounds like you are dealing with your sexuality and having a t with less prejudice about this would be good. Her prejudice may be unconscious and unintentional, but it's still unhelpful to be exposed to it. Assuming that one has to try heterosexuality first is really biased, and it's good you seem to be aware of that. (Would she suggest her heterosexual clients try homosexual relationships just to make sure?) If I was just becoming comfortable with my sexuality, I wouldn't want a t foisting biased attitudes that I might not be aware enough yet to realize are biased.

However, you have a bond with her and I understand not wanting to break that.

Well, I think there is a difference between not understanding a specific term (and perhaps not a very common one judging by responses here) and knowing nothing about a (large) segment of the population. The OP's situation seems pretty extreme. And this isn't just some random person. This is a therapist. I would think that issues pertaining to sexuality would be an important part of training.

I think it is another one of those personal preference issues, though. Some clients might not mind answering questions each session about an important group that they belong to. Others might not want to do this when they know that they could easily find a therapist who doesn't need remedial information on a large segment of the population. I have a gay friend that will only see gay T's. I don't think there is anything wrong with that if that is what is most helpful to him.

Button should do what is best for her. If she is happy with this T in every other way, it doesn't make sense to jump ship. But it is totally reasonable to expect more understanding than she is getting from her T.

Best,
EJ

Yes we have bonded from the start. She genuinely cares which is a really nice quality. I do not like some of things like calling me a different name and the your kind comment but she is a good person. I suppose I have to take the good with the bad.
She is learning too, she always says that life is a lesson and we never stop learning. She just makes suggestions if I am stuck with things.Like my sexuality. T always asks me first how can I be more comfortable with it and I always say i don't know.
She has helped me open up so much and comparing.g it to my last therapist, I wasted thousands and got no where. T says I have been storing all my anger inside and its eating away at. I remember telling old T that i was depressed and that depression is anger turned inside, she just said nothing and stared at me. She hurt me so much and every session I came out feeling bad about myself. She blamed me for everything.

It interesting. During our election cycle, I was freaking out about what if my T was a Republican... for 10000 reasons, but I feel like it would just mean our world views were totally off... But when I told her it was freaking me out, she assured me that regardless of her political party, she was completely accepting everyone and feels that everyone has the right to be happy. She told me she was absolutely not socially conservative... and that was important to me. because while I do think that people can be good to you in a lot of ways, anyone who can't accept all of my parts and care for all of them cannot help me to do the same.