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#1
I really like my therapist, he is very skilled and compassionate in session. I have called him twice, and he has called me back.
Calling him, though, isn't recommended, it is a last resort kind of thing. I'm fine with that. Until I start feeling vulnerable/distrustful or I start feeling that he is the only one in the world who can relieve my stress. I get it, I understand. I have to be responsible for myself. I have to find people outside of therapy. I HATE myself, and I HATE the part of me that becomes attached. I despise it, it has caused me nothing but pain. I didn't ask for it, and I don't want it. I have tried acceptance, tried taking care of myself, and in the end I end up failing and getting angry as hell. I am so angry at all of this. I totally depleted my last therapist, and I am now desperately trying to push down any anger, feeling like I want to have another session, feeling like I want some kind of contact. I don't want to feel this way. Who would? Others are talking about losing faith in their therapists, I am starting to lose faith in myself. Seing a therapist is pain. I am losing faith in the possibility that I might get better. I can't see it. I regret that this is the person I have been. So many regrets. Is therapy worth the pain? I guess for some it gets better, but I don't think it will for me. I am tired of being in pain, which only begets pain. There is no answer to my problem that I can fathom. Hopelessness is rushing in. . . ![]() |
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![]() Please don't ever doubt yourself or have regrets. You are a person who has feelings, needs and becomes attached to people. This is a lovely quality- I mean that you have so many feelings. You are always there to comfort everyone else and I for one am grateful to know you. I get what you are saying but I have known lots of people who don't have any feelings and I know feelings can be a pain in the butt but they are there for a reason to let others know you care and to tell you to take care of yourself. Sometimes I wish I didn't have any feelings and that I had never started therapy because I was terminated by t1 after 1.5 years and it hurt like hell but I learned lots about myself through the process. I really hope you can try and trust this t because he sounds like a genuinely great t. |
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I know therapy is suppopsed to be hard but painful I dont know Anti. I imagine it is painful reliving events from our past but the pain that we have is different. Its a pain that we shouldn't have maybe. A pain from abondenment and fear of it. I am terrified of becoming attached, yet it happens everytime. |
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__________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Anti it sounds like you're reliving past stuff here - the whole thing of not feeling like you deserve relief from T, like you can't be dependent but at the same time feel you are, the fear of rejection and abandonment and the fear of all those crappy awful feelings like impotent rage and frustration and endless unmet needs apparently thrown back in your face, the shame of being seen for who you really are...
And that's describing ME! Lol, no, it's what I've read in your last post but you could be describing me all the same. And the way I read it, it's not just about T, it's about everything that's gone before. If you could hold onto the fact that this IS about past stuff and that if you keep plugging away and dealing with all this negative stuff coming up and keep reaching out and talking to T about it, that's the therapy and the healing will happen. At least that's what I think ![]() Just got to hang in there and tell yourself this is all part of the process. Hugs to you Anti ![]() xxx __________________ Somebody must have made a false accusation against Josef K, for he was arrested one morning without having done anything wrong. (The Trial, Franz Kafka) Lamplighter used to be Torn Mind |
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AMatter, you are okay right where you are. I know it is hard but it is okay to have issues. Your T is a good T and he will work with you through this. I understand how the issues with the last T are making you worry. This sounds pretty normal. We are influenced by what has happened to us. __________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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I would like to thank everyone who has helped me over this past week. My replies to others' posts have been tainted by my mood, my apologies.
![]() It has been a difficult week, no doubt. I hadn't considered that I was reliving something from the past, at least not in full awareness. I keep thinking that I am just this needy loser in the here and now and I haven't been able to change it, and when I suppress it, it comes back with a vengeance or it threatens to tear me apart. Thinking in terms of this is past stuff has helped quell some of my distress. Thanks for that, Torn. ![]() Quote:
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![]() I see my T tomorrow and I need to remember what to tell him. I am looking forward to it, I need some relief. I won't see him the next week, because I am going on vacation, and even that has me stressed. At least I trudged forward this week, as reluctant as I was to do it. Not sure that I want to do it again, though. What is it about therapists that they can relieve our stress whereas no one else can (with some people)? It's a very powerful position. I'm really curious. Hugs to all. |
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Good luck with your appt. tomorrow. ![]() __________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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