I was involved in another forum debate on attachment today & thought this input from someone was interesting...... " takes avg of 3 yrs to go from disorganised attachment to insecure organised & further 3 yrs to go from insecure organised to 'earned' secure".

[healed84]

That is a whole lot of years to form a secure attatchment to somebody.. and I past that amount with my H, and not there yet. I have a hard time believing numbers, staticts, etc, when it comes to people's emotions, feelings, attatchments, etc.. Things happen when they happen..

What do you think Eartmama?

[unaluna]

Sounds like I'm on schedule. If you just count this t and while I'm not seeing my stupid family.

[ECHOES]

Do they mean as adults, in a relationship or in therapy?
Or developmentally, as a child from 0-3, the from 3-6?

That sounds about right for me and my t.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by earthmamma

I was involved in another forum debate on attachment today & thought this input from someone was interesting...... " takes avg of 3 yrs to go from disorganised attachment to insecure organised & further 3 yrs to go from insecure organised to 'earned' secure".

Plausible. But it's not "one size fits all".

Sorry yes I wasnt so much fixated on the exact time frames here. I was more attracted to the idea that this does take time. Of course this isn't an exact science, but for those they feel confused that their 20 sessions or whatever wasn't enough then this explains perhaps why.