Heading for a Rupture - oh no, not again...

I think those who believe they are in a helping profession more often than not have control/power issues themselves. More than most people want to believe and certainly more than therapists openly admit. They label it different things so they don't have to do so. In my dealings with them, more as an attorney than personally, that has been my experience.
I realize mine is not the majority opinion.

>> what you sought support for was your unhappiness that you couldn't boss your child around and have the outcome be what you wanted it to be. And your T tried to get you to focus on the things that you can control and perhaps to understand that parenting for the purpose of bossing your kid around might not be the best way to enhance your relationship with her.
there, that was the elusive thought I never could pin down. Thanks Anne.

>> Maybe she wanted you to feel that it was okay to not be able to control your child (or anyone else, like her maybe?), that your world wouldn't end, that you'd still be the same powerful person with all the same competent and loveable qualities even if someone refuses to be bossed around by you.
If you were me, CE (yes, a big stretch I know), this comment would stop me in my tracks. I'd have to give it a lot of thought.

Someone commented that there seems to be a lot of criticism in this thread - I hope you don't feel that way. PC forum gives the opportunity for the same comment to strike a lot of very different ears, and as a consequence, the OP gets to see through a lot of very different eyes. To me that's a precious resource (and of course you are part of it too).

I appreciate you saying this, very much.

I was going to say the very same thing Hankster
CE, do you think you are trying to push T away and looking for an excuse for her to mess up so you can push her away?

I think stopdog solved the problem. But, was it one stray hair or two? I like conspiracy theorists (I am also teasing CE)

(((CE)))
I think the answer of the faults and successes are somewhere within you, your therapist, and your therapeutical relationship. I don't want to project, although I easily could, but I will spare you and everyone else. Just wanted to show up and show my support, support in hopes that all involved will come through swimmingly. May your impending therapeutical rupture be worked through with expediency and resolution.

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Can you say exactly how she could have been more empathetic and supportive? Something you wanted her to say, or do? Or are you just saying you want "more"?

I think when something happens that is important, we do hang on to it until we can get back to it and work it out. I guess when it comes back up, it's good to ask 'why' and 'why now'?