[sittingatwatersedge]

when you are not at home,
and can't really go off by yourself,

what is yr first line of defense, as far as a coping strategy?

[CantExplain]

Can I surf the internet?

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Can I surf the internet?

that would work.

I tried going outside for some sunshine, but it was grey windy & felt like snow, not exactly what I had pictured.

I go off in my head on some wild Famous Five-like adventure....You can stop laughing now

[stopdog]

Dissociate
Read
Write short stories about everyone in the room or house
Nap

[Nightlight]

I hide somewhere far away inside myself and act like a normal happy person on the outside. Usually that means things are worse when I can finally let my guard down properly.

[ECHOES]

I can always find a way to go off by myself. I always have a book with me, so I can go off to read, whether I actually read or not

I lose my self in my phone.

[content30]

Draw, read, tv/movie, Internet, talk to others around me, phone a friend or family member....

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Nap

That can be a good strategy. If you have nothing else to do, sleep is always worthwhile.

[suzzie]

i always pretend im busy searching for something in my purse.
i can search for over an hour if i have too.
my phone doesnt have internet. or i would do that.
i also block everyone around me out.

In the early therapy yrs I found it hard. At work I'd have to go sit in the toilets. Now? It's a lot easier to manage

sleep, and i tell myself over and over and over... "i will remain calm"
then i try to breathe

I spent almost a week with my parents when my dad was dying. I asked my T to leave a message on my phone. I listened to it a lot. I would say, oh, I need to check messages. I also brought work and set up my computer and stuff in the other room. You could maybe tell her that you have a free-lance project to work.

[sittingatwatersedge]

I found out that drafting hurt, sarcastic or enraged txt messages and erasing them doesn't work - and is risky, what if I should hit the wrong button and send it.

I feel a rupture coming - not impossible - and I want to avoid it at all costs.

....well, ( T, if you are reading this, although you tell me you do not ) ... at almost all costs.

[sittingatwatersedge]

thanks for your suggestions. you've given me some new options!!

[ECHOES]

I hope you are coping well !!

[sittingatwatersedge]

I'm really not, twinnie, I have this lurking rage that won't leave me and I see T in maybe 12 hrs.

I am so afraid that I will just walk out and i am convinced that is absolutely the wrong thing for me to do............. scared.....

[Nightlight]

My T used to be quite good at being so rational, calm and consistent when I felt that way. I hope your session is much better and easier than you fear.