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I went to see a new t today, replacing the one that moved. Of course, I went in with an attitude that she wasn't going to impress me, I hated starting over, etc. She has the same degree (Ph.D) as my old one, and appears to be about the same age.
Here are my impressions. First I didn't like that her hand was freezing cold when she shook my hand. I am not really a hand shaker anyway, but I like a hearty, comforting one if I must. She was nice and mild-mannered. I hope she toughens up a bit. My old therapist would call it like she saw it, whether I liked it or not-she kept me on my toes. Also, the other thing that really annoyed me is that she has a timer-I know that this is standard with many therapists, but it made me feel like I supposed to stop mid-sentence. At the end she shook my hand again, I hope this is only a first-day thing, not every time. I admit that I was not a great client today. I only shared what she asked, no details. I am not sure whether we will develop a relationship yet, so she will need to work for my trust. She asked that I have my former t's notes sent to her. I had really debated this one, but I guess it will make it easier to get started. I talked with my son's t tonight about it, and she reminded me that I am the client, so it's up to me. The son's t also knows that I have had behaviors that embarrass me because I am not an open person. Anyway, I did sign the release for my records. I am going back next week. We will see after a few weeks it this relationship will work out. She needs to give me a personality to work with, or she will have a hard time learning about mine! I guess it will get better as I start getting over my relationship with the former t. Bluemountains |
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Bluemountain...it is so hard changing Ts. I don't think I could go to a new t that was like my old t. I went from a man to a woman... From psychodynamic to more eclectic....
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It may get better, but don't give it too long. Seems like the general consensus is 3 sessions. If it still doesn't feel right, move on quickly. You don't have to stay with her.
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Hi Bluemountains,
I know how hard it is starting with a new t! The one I'm with right now had me sign a form saying I'd commit to six sessions before deciding if therapy with her is right for me, so yeah that's what I'm gonna do. Just trust your instincts I guess.
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Bluemountains,
I wish you all the best with your new T. I start with my new T today so I know how you feel. I miss my old T to but I had to terminate to find a Christian T that would help me process some issues in light of my belief...not down play them. |
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Good luck with the new T! Bluemountains |
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