[thawing]

So today my therapist said “you seem to have trouble with your relationships with other people”. I didn’t even really hear it then but thinking about it now, I’m really annoyed.

I don’t really understand where she’s coming from. I might be in denial but personally I really don’t think I have trouble in relationships (let’s bear in mind I’ve never discussed ‘boys’ there so she wouldn’t have meant RELATIONSHIP relationships).

Ok I know I fell out with my flatmates last year but we are very different people. i.e. they are *****es and I’m lovely No but seriously, we were just very different people living in a small flat and even if I’d been the most mentally stable person ever, I still don’t think it would have ended well. I don’t talk to many people from my GCSE school… but then again many people stopped talking to me after a teacher tried to strangle me and the entire school thought I’d made it up to get him sacked.

Like really, the above two examples I wouldn’t count as me having trouble in relationships, I’d put it down to standard life experience. EVERYONE has arguments and people they don’t talk to.

I get on really well with my current flatmates, really well with my coursemates, really well with other friends and really well with all of my family (apart from mum when she’s going through crazy stages and then no one gets on with her).

I might try and ask her about this because thinking about it now, it’s really upsetting me and I can’t put my finger on why it’s upsetting me. It’s just like she thinks I’m socially flawed or naive or need help to make friends; or after all this time she really doesn’t know me at all; or maybe she just made judgements based on my assessment sessions and hasn’t listened to the actual me at all?

[Abby]

That's strange. From what you write it sounds like it wasn't as much a flat-out statement as a reflection on something you were talking about...was it in reference to something?

I think getting on well with flatmates, course mates plus having other friends and a good relationship with your family (in general) is pretty good going! Even if this weren't the case having trouble with relationships might not necessarily mean you are socially flawed, or naïve or can't do social interactions, perhaps it could be more of a trust issue? Except it sounds like you trust most people you're friends with so I'd feel a bit confused and upset to by this. I'd ask her what she meant.

[CantExplain]

Could "relationships" mean "family"?

[unaluna]

So I looked back at some of your old posts and there was one about a boy but I couldn't really tell if you told her about it or not. So maybe she's just going by, how come you never talk about boys, is there a problem there? ? Idk.