[CantExplain]

Termination Session 2: Homework

When pressed, T gave me three items of homework. But she doesn’t like to give homework, let alone structured exercises, because that feeds into my “good boy/bad boy” complex.

Me: But I feel like that whether you encourage me or not.
T: I know.

So the exercises are:
1. Don’t rush to judgement.
2. Listen to my stomach.
3. Try to find a boy between “good boy” and “bad boy”.

What am I supposed to do with that?! I need more guidance.

Thinks: Therapy must at least start with the way the patient actually thinks.

I wonder about practicing labeling without assigning judgement.
Lets say (in an extreme example) you yelled at someone, cursed at them, and tossed a chair. Instead of saying "this was bad" or "I was a 'brat'" which are both judgements practice sticking to the facts.
I said curse words that I didnt like. I threw a chair, I wish I didnt. Etc. labeling them emotionally increases emotional dysregulation so just state the observable facts. This may help see that we are not good or bad...

[CantExplain]

I'll think about that.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Termination Session 2: Homework

When pressed, T gave me three items of homework. But she doesn’t like to give homework, let alone structured exercises, because that feeds into my “good boy/bad boy” complex.

.....3. Try to find a boy between “good boy” and “bad boy”.

What am I supposed to do with that?! I need more guidance.

Ah yes, this feels like familiar territory to me, sounds a bit like working with your Shadow. Identifying and accepting your shadow as a part of you. This is of course from the Jungian side of things..... I've done a good bit of shadow work with my T and on my own, quite interesting and not at all easy at the same time. Best wishes to you as you continue your path.

[CantExplain]

I'm starting to think she was teasing me the whole time...