[elliemay]

Do you ever have days where you just want to go to therapy and talk about nothing? Just kind of be?

I have some stuff to unload, but i'm so tired.

I need some kid gloves here, not diehard therapy.

I just need some soothing i guess.

Yes. I wanted that. I didn't get it. T thought it would be a good time to rake over some old muck.

Hope you get your talk about butterflies/your soothing

[Syra]

Originally Posted by elliemay

Do you ever have days where you just want to go to therapy and talk about nothing? Just kind of be?

I have some stuff to unload, but i'm so tired.

I need some kid gloves here, not diehard therapy.

I just need some soothing i guess.

I've done it. I just curled up in the couch and she just sat with me and it felt wonderful. Sometimes I'd say a little bit.

I've also just talked about how hard and tiring therapy is. That was actually pretty helpful although it started off wtih me just feeling sorry for myself

I totally resonate with wanting kid gloves and soothing, and not diehard therapy! At least sometimes. Sometimes a lot. And then sometimes I'm ready for some hard work.
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[feralkittymom]

Absolutely. And I think those sessions were really far more important than I would have thought at the time. They were like a mini reboot of the relationship, and allowed us both to experience a different feeling between us. Not a waste at all. It's all good.

Sometimes, the times I have asked for easier sessions, he has gone along and we have an easy, very light, lets just talk about how things are going with my friendship, and what the kids are doing.

A couple of times, though, he has thought that we just absolutely, positively HAVE to talk about the last session at least a little. This happened last week. He spent most of the time talking about the session before. It was easy for me in the sense that HE did most of the talking, but not easy in the sense I would have liked to completely avoid the topic of the session of the week before. It was healing, and helpful in the long run, although still emotionally exhausting.

Best bet is to just let the T know you need something easier.

[WikidPissah]

May your T rise to meet you...It's okay to have an easy session.

[Abby]

Yeah absolutely. Its feels awful when I want to get it all out/cry/yell/whatever but I'm too tired to try. It is a difficult situation so I hope that you find your way through it. Take care of yourself!

[likelife]

Definitely. Though I've not yet asked for one of those kinds of sessions. Seems like it would be a good idea.

[critterlady]

I call them puppies and rainbows sessions. I walk in, sit down and tell t that I want to talk about puppies and rainbows. He knows that means that I'm simply not up to a big, important, earth-shattering discussion that day. He goes with the flow.

["Tilly may"]

well, one time i just layed on her couch and she read to me. It was very soothing.

[Ike McCaslin]

I know the feeling, elliemay.

What do you know about the Irish Traveller's in Murphy's village? My boss took me thru there on Tuesday.

[stopdog]

That one I see sometimes tries to do it. She will start with some thing like "well we have had a few hard appointments so today why not X." I usually don't know how they were hard for her, and I don't remember them as hard for me, so what is the deal.
But it seems that lighter appointments are not unusual from the therapist side if the one I see is any indication.

Its absolutely ok to have easier sessions. T and i sometimes do. Our usual trauma therapy os tough. One day we just played a game. One day we just went for ice cream. Things like that. Sometimes we just talk about our pets, or famiies or whatever. Its ok to take a break from the tough stuff.

[elliemay]

Well, we didn't exactly talk about butterflies, but it was nice. Nothing high level.

I kind of curled up in the chair and just chatted. He was very good about it actually.

He's a good egg.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by elliemay

Do you ever have days where you just want to go to therapy and talk about nothing? Just kind of be?

Yes, that can happen. T is generally relieved when I don't have an agenda.

I think it's perfectly fine once in awhile and can really be as helpful as the tougher sessions. My session last week was one of those - light, chatty, feel-good. We'd been working pretty deeply for a couple of months, so I think it was good for both of us. I don't think it's a waste at all. Even if it seems like it's not therapy-related, when you think about it, anything you might talk about that involves you and your reactions/feelings is t-related. Therapy doesn't have to be hard ALL the time to work!