[bamapsych]

I've been completely terminated from therapy for over 3 months now. My life has been going well. I'm still making progress with everything I worked on in therapy. I have no intentions of returning. I got engaged during Valentine's weekend. I have been considering emailing my ex-T to tell her the news. I finally did last week. It took her a week, but she responded that she accepted my invitation. She is also supposed to do a reading during the ceremony. I'm shocked that she would agree to do all of this, but I'm very grateful! I told her that I would go through any legal formalities if needed to release her from any and all liabilities. I also assured her that I completely understand if she steps into my real life that I can never return to her as a client. I'm interested to see what input you guys have...

[Anne2.0]

I say good for you for asking for what you wanted, and I'm glad your ex-T accepted. I don't think there is anything wrong with post-therapy contact if both people want it. I think that if there is a "social consortium" or any other guideline that prohibits this kind of contact (which, personally, I doubt, as the spirit if not the letter of the law focuses on prohibiting sexual or financial or otherwise exploitative relationships), I don't think that a client can waive this. Whatever the rules are, it's the T's duty to follow them as part of her profession, so I would think you are safe from having to sign anything away.

[struggling2]

how cool of you for asking and your ex-t for accepting!

[tooski]

Congratulations on your engagement! And it's encouraging to hear that your therapy was successful and things are going well for you. And I think it's great that you were able to terminate with your T on good terms. At least it sounds like it, because you wanted to invite her to a big day in your life and she agreed. I agree with others that I don't think there are any problems with this.

[anilam]

Congratulation:-)

I wouldn't be OK with that personally and I think 3 months are too early to be truly terminated (plus it would be a shame to loose her as your future T just because of that)- but if you're happy then I'm happy for you. Also it depends on other things- how long you've been with her, how strong your bond was...
Hope you don't have any further expectations though (i.e. you two becoming friends). Although for some even that works.

I got engaged on Vday (years ago) and my childhood T came to my wedding. It was pretty cool. I know you must be happy and I am glad she accepted! congrats to you!

[(JD)]

One of my brothers married on Valentine's day

I see no problem with this short interval of contact, especially since you've been "therapy free" for 3 months. There are many areas of the country where there are necessary "dual relationships" simply because the towns are so small the clients and T run into each other at church, the store, at the movies etc. I also see no reason for you not to return to this T in the future.

May your marriage be blessed

[WePow]

It is wonderful that you have allowed xT to celebrate your special day with you. I am certain she is very happy to have been blessed to have had the chance to walk a bit with you on your journey. I have a feeling whatever she says will be from her soul and filled with love for you. I bet it is not often a former client gives a T that chance to share their own feelings about the client in such a wonderful way.

[TheRealFDeal]

I think that's very cool that your xT wants to come to your wedding.