[nessaea]

There are a couple threads on here about what we want to say to our Ts, but none about what we really need to hear our Ts tell us right now. So, I figured I'd start one.

If I could talk to my T right now, I would really love to hear her say:

"I know you can get through this."
"I believe in you."
"I am here for you right now and I won't leave you when things get really bad."
"You are not a horrible person."
"Even if no one else sees it, I know how hard you are trying, and I think you are doing a great job."

Anyone else have something they wish they could hear their T tell them?

[wheeler]

"I love you"

[precious things]

Originally Posted by nessaea

There are a couple threads on here about what we want to say to our Ts, but none about what we really need to hear our Ts tell us right now. So, I figured I'd start one.

If I could talk to my T right now, I would really love to hear her say:

"I know you can get through this."
"I believe in you."
"I am here for you right now and I won't leave you when things get really bad."
"You are not a horrible person."
"Even if no one else sees it, I know how hard you are trying, and I think you are doing a great job."

Anyone else have something they wish they could hear their T tell them?

Wow...my T said every single one of those things to me at our last session with exception of I won't leave you. We're you listening in on our session? Lol

I think I would love to hear " you can contact me anytime you need to...." It's not even that I would, but the thought is comforting.

[Syra]

I got triggered by things in me, and I couldn't hear you or respond to you as I tried to keep the triggers quiet. I'm sorry. I've been working on it. I wish I'd realized this before the rupture. If so, I would have told you and not blamed & judged you.

[purplemystery]

"You have meant something to me and have been a meaningful part of my career. I care about you."

[tooski]

Only one:

"I care about you"

And I'm never gonna hear it ....

</end pity party>

[stopdog]

"I am sorry I mocked you"

[JayneJohnson49]

You can be strong and sad all in one.

My t pretty much says everything i need to hear from her already. There is only one i really really am waiting to hear:
" i am finally coming home! To stay! After two years, i am coming back!"

[sconnie892]

This is a safe place.
(I know that, but hearing it over and over is helpful)

[Freewilled]

"I care about you"
"I'm here for you"
"I understand"
"I know what you mean"
"I won't leave"
"You *are* good enough"

[seattleskies88]

"What you have to say is important to me."
"You'll never be too much for me to handle."
"I understand where your feelings are coming from and I think it is good for you to express them... no matter how childish and immature you think they are."
"I accept you."

She already tells me everything I need to hear. She has told me things I never thought I deserved to hear, and many things I didn't know I needed to hear. I don't perceive it as gushiness. It's been healing for me.

[1stepatatime]

I will always be here when you need me

[HealingTimes]

Everything i have needed to hear from my T, i have heard. She is able to make me feel safe and comforted.

You know how some people just seem born to go into certain profession? My T must have been born to be a T, as she is so good at it.