[Moodswing]

Do you know if any other member here sees the same therapist as you and if so do you talk to each other about him/her?

I see someone in Massachusetts. Curious if anyone else uses the same therapists as I do.

[wotchermuggle]

Interesting question.

I wouldn't want to know... it would bother me to discuss how someone else feels about my T... I would find it frustrating because most likely I wouldn't get along as well as they would since I don't trust as much as some other people.

Not that I'm aware of. I think that's a situation that has the potential to open a big ol' can of worms, though. If I suspected someone were seeing the same T as me, I wouldn't want to make them aware of it in case it were a problem for them. People come here and say all kinds of things that other clients of the same therapist could find difficult - from comments like 'I feel I have a special connection with T and I think I'm their favourite' to 'I hate my T!! They said [blah blah] and now I can't trust them...'

I just like to think that of ALL the people who are in therapy, all around the world, and ALL the therapists there are, that we here on the forum are a pretty small group, and the odds must surely be against it happening. But I guess stranger things have happened..

[content30]

There is no way anyone on here sees my T from everything I've read. Id be able to tell with her sayings. Ive figured out people are from my country and region, perhaps, but that is it.

On the flipside, my cousin is going to start seeing my T in a couple of weeks. That will be kind of neat. She's only seeing my T while she is home for the summer. So, it won't/can't be an ongoing thing. I'm interested to see her opinion. My cousin is a college student, but she is an old soul...wise beyond her years....

I have become close friends with someone on here who lives in the same city as i do. We discussed early on the possibility we were seeing the same therapist, but turns out we weren't. LOL. I think that we would have been able to work things out and still be friends. I referred a really good friend to my T, and we managed fine while she was seeing him.

[stopdog]

For me, it does not matter if someone on an internet site does or does not. But I don't usually think about it.

[tinyrabbit]

I wouldn't want to know. I'm not sure it would help either me or the other person.

[harvest moon]

I'm from Greece, so I'm 100% sure that no one here sees my T.

[Moodswing]

Many therapist hold support groups where most or all of the group members see the same therapist. I see it something like that. I never have tried a support group before.

[sugahorse1]

I wouldn't feel comfortable, but being from South Africa it's not very likely, lol

[southpole]

I'm 99.9% sure no one else here sees my T. I hate even thinking about her having other clients, even though I obviously know she does, LOL. I couldn't hack knowing someone who went to her. It would send my possessiveness into a spin!

I had an excellent T years ago who I recommended to a friend (I must have been feeling less possessive at that point). The friend HATED my T and told me in no uncertain terms what a b**ch she thought she was. My T also expressed that she did not think she was a good match for my friend. The whole thing upset me.

[nessaea]

I don't know if anyone here sees the same T as I do. It wouldn't really bother me if I knew, but I don't think I'd have any desire to talk about it.

Before I saw my current T for the first time, but after I had been referred to her, I told one of my friends about it, and it turns out she knew her and wasn't a really big fan. As much as I want to say it didn't affect me, I think her thoughts and feelings did prejudice me against my T when I first met her. However, I stayed with her, and I'm so grateful I did because she has been one of the best people in my life. So, just from that experience, I don't think it would be useful to me to hear what other people think of my T. I like to make my own opinions (although that is generally a rule of mine for everyone; I will listen to what others have to say about someone, but I will decide for myself what I think of them!)

[HealingTimes]

I would HATE if i knew anyone else with the same T as me. In fact, i couldnt imagine anything worse!

[WikidPissah]

Where in MA are you from? Just area/county...Western Ma, South Shore, Cape and Islands....no need to be specific.

[Moodswing]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

Where in MA are you from? Just area/county...Western Ma, South Shore, Cape and Islands....no need to be specific.

Middlesex county

[Moodswing]

Wow so many people possessive over their therapist. This could be a good research paper for a psych student. A sub category from transference. It like siblings fighting over attention from a parent.

[seventyeight]

i think about this EVERY TIME i'm on here. and if someone sounds like they might have the same therapist as me, i have to look into it further. i think i might be paranoid

it's doesn't have anything to do with "possessing" my therapist, but more to do with the curiosity regarding other clients' sessions. if i knew someone on here had the same therapist as me, i'd be interested in hearing their take on things, how their sessions go, etc. it would be like getting to see another side of my therapist, in a way.

[likelife]

I don't think anyone on here has the same T as I do, but I suppose it's within the realm of possibility. I don't think I'd necessarily want to know if that were the case. Not because of possessiveness, but because I don't want another person's experience of my T to influence or alter my own experience.

I don't think it would be about possessiveness, necessarily... maybe it would manifest as protectiveness - if someone was bashing their T some folks might feel the need to defend them? That's what came to my mind as a possible scenario. But yeah, if someone else seemed to have a better relationship than you with your T, that might lead to jealousy. I've seen it discussed here on the board where people havent liked it if they've seen the previous client hugging their T at the door - especially if the T does not also hug them - or heard the previous client laughing with the T and wondered 'why doesn't T laugh with me?' and then they might go on to draw all kinds of conclusions about themselves and/or the relationship.

I wondered about the group T scenario. I think the difference with a group T who also does individual therapy with members of the group is that the group usually only communicate with each other whilst IN therapy - from what I've read, group therapy clients are discouraged from being friends outside of group. I might be wrong on that, though. I seem to remember someone here on the forum was involved in group therapy that had some kind of online discussion element - I don't know how successful that turned out to be - and again, I might be wrong

I'd like to think I could separate what I have with my T from anything anyone else who may or may not be seeing her might say, and not let it affect me...

I own a forum for people with DID and several people there know my therapist because they worked with her years ago when she worked in a trauma hospital. It doesnt bother me.
However, years ago my old best friend and i saw the same t (my old t). It was hard. W tried to have fun with it- we had back to back appointments, so we would wear the same outfit to see if t noticed, or we would play orher little "tricks" on her just to be silly, but in the end it all had a huge falling out, and neither of them are in my life any more. Of course, neither of them were good for me in the first place.