Time in therapy vs original expectation

I have actually lasted longer this time than I ever have. I put it down to not being as rigid when I quit - this time I have paid attention to being sad after quitting and then letting myself go back. I remind myself I have the power to do something else - and give myself room to do it.
And to having two of them.

I think that was an irresponsible thing to say.
Sorry if that causes offense.

No offense taken at all. She prefaced that statement by saying "You won't be one of those people who are in therapy for years." Well I ended up having to spend years in therapy just trying to get over the shame of being one of "those" people, and dealing with the consequences of the things she told me I had to do in order to heal, before I could even begin to work on the issues I came to therapy with. She was a horrible T.

I was hesitant to write any of this because I didn't want to hijack the thread, but I really think it's relevent to the topic. Unfortunately sometimes the people we go to for help end up making things so much worse. That can definitely add considerably to what we have to deal with in therapy, and hence to the length of time we are in therapy. I would say of the 9 years I've spent in therapy, probably at least 3 of it was just trying to get over some of the things I've been told by therapists, or bad terminations, or unethical practices, or things that have happened just as I've tried to seek help. I've seen 12 different therapists, and 5 of them have made things A LOT worse. When I started therapy, I never would have imagined that there are so many Ts out there who haven't dealt with their own crap, or who don't know what they are doing. I never would have anticipated the amount of time in therapy I would have to spend getting over bad experiences in therapy.

I know what you mean - I lasted one session with a previous T who put me off for years, and my current T has had to do some repair work. Which has helped me trust him.