Seem's like forever since I posted in here, I started with my new therapist at the beginning of February and this is my first proper therapy apart from CBT and group therapy, I became very attached to my CBT therapist, This therapist is so different I like her but she often does my head in too, Last week I told her that I have issues with trust and that at times I feel like telling her to shut up as she asks so many questions.

My problem is I am having doubts with this therapist, she asks way too many questions is this the way therapy works? She does have a good reputation but I think she expects me to trust her this soon does this make sense?

[CantExplain]

Asking questions is certainly part of the process.

[The_little_didgee]

Usually, questions are part of the initial assessment. A therapist will ask them to get acquainted with you and develop a treatment plan. After that they should decrease.

Some therapists don't like silence. Could she be asking to get you to talk?

Trusting a therapist takes time. It is a very special relationship so it is okay to feel unsure. I just started seeing one. At the moment, I have no idea what to make of her, even after 5 appointments.

[tinyrabbit]

I think it depends a lot on the client. I wanted a lot of questions at first to get me talking. Now I want space to talk.

I think the important thing is to talk about how you're feeling. Everyone is different so getting it right for you will be a process.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by Buttercup..

Last week I told her that I have issues with trust and that at times I feel like telling her to shut up as she asks so many questions.

What did she say when you told her this? I think it's really good you were able to tell her. That itself suggests there is some trust there.

Thanks.

Well she kept saying that I think a lot but won't say how I feel, So she asked what I thought of her so that is what I said, She laughed and thought it was funny but she then went on to say that therapy is a two way thing and she isn't a mind reader.

[ultramar]

Originally Posted by Buttercup..

Thanks.

Well she kept saying that I think a lot but won't say how I feel, So she asked what I thought of her so that is what I said, She laughed and thought it was funny but she then went on to say that therapy is a two way thing and she isn't a mind reader.

I don't know if you're thinking this, but just in case, I doubt she was laughing at the fact that you have a hard time trusting. Maybe it was the 'shut up' thing? I don't know if maybe you said it in a kind of lighthearted way (even if you didn't feel that way).

It sounds like she's trying to get you out of your head and talking about how you feel. I'll echo someone else here who said it's great that you told her how you feel about trusting her, that's a great first step. It's so scary at first and it takes time. Do you feel comfortable asking her why she asks the questions she does? Maybe this will help get it out into the open, she can explain why she's doing this and you can have the opportunity to share that it's scaring you a bit.

[TheRealFDeal]

I have trust issues too. I have decided to tell my story in my own time, and will decline to answer questions I'm not ready for. I will tell T that I'm not ready to go there, and hope he understands.

[stopdog]

I don't mind questions. I think the therapist is the one who knows what is and is not useful in therapy and that they should ask questions designed to glean that information. But if you don't like them, just don't answer if you don't want to. If you have asked her to stop and she won't, then not answering them is, in my opinion, the thing to do. Unless you want to find a different one who won't ask.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Buttercup..

Thanks.

Well she kept saying that I think a lot but won't say how I feel, So she asked what I thought of her so that is what I said, She laughed and thought it was funny but she then went on to say that therapy is a two way thing and she isn't a mind reader.

Therapy is a two-way thing? Then tell me how you feel, T.

Thanks.

Today again she was asking questions in my head I felt like telling her to "shut up"
I know that to start recovering I need to open up and I really do want to but how do I do this? I feel like I am being pathetic, T said today that I have very low self esteem and that I have suffered emotional abuse throughout life, I just don't know where to begin.

She has put my name forward for group therapy to build my self esteem (she runs it) This is a scary thought.