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Old May 02, 2013, 03:51 PM
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How do I let my parents know I want to talk to someone again with out them thinking that something's wrong or that they did something to hurt me?

my parents weren't trilled about me seeing some in the first place and once my problems got "resolved" we stopped the sessions. My brother sees someone because he has ADHD and I honestly think I would benefit to go and talk to someone once a week or every other week. Before I went to see the social worker the first time my aunt and uncle thought it would do me good and I told my mom and she wasn't for it "last time I checked your uncle wasn't a therapist" (she uses that for everything I had an infection on my ankle and showed my dad "last time I checked your dad wasn't a doctor, last time I checked you didn't have cancer" My dads friend also looked at it)

The social worker was recommended by my schools guidance counselor who I went to see after my friend told them I was cutting. My mom never talked to me about it. If I didn't mentioned it to her she wouldn't have set up with an appointment. I had to push her to let me see one.

I don't want to ask and have them think that I'm cutting "again" (it's a once in a while thing. The counselor and my parents was stupid enough to believe that I stopped when they found out and when there were no more marks on my wrist) or that they did something to hurt me in someway. If I'm being completely honest I feel crazy. Like something is maybe not right mentally or something but I can't honestly tell that to my parents.

So what can I do
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Old May 02, 2013, 04:03 PM
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If you feel you need therapy, then you go make sure you get it. If your parents worry, be glad.. they love you! And then try to explain to them they don't have to. But don't let that stop you from even asking. Just tell them: I think I need some one professional to talk to, so I will grow up to be a healthy adult.

There's no way they can be against that I would think.
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Old May 02, 2013, 10:07 PM
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do you think your guidance counselor at school could help you figure out how to talk to your parents? I mean, how to ask them to let you go to a professional
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Old May 03, 2013, 03:54 AM
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Old May 03, 2013, 04:23 AM
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Last time I checked your mum wasn't a doctor/T too.

Seriously though, it's great that you are considering getting the help you need. Mayby an honest doscussion with your parents might help. You don't need to tell them it's because of SI. Mayby even write a letter to them? that's what I was doing when I wasn't able to calmly and reasonably explain to my mum stg. Sounds a bit weird maybe but she never let me finish what I was trying to say otherwise (not for lack of trying, but it just didn't get through to her) and this was a way for me to be really heard.
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Old May 03, 2013, 09:23 AM
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You can't predict your parents' thoughts or reactions or do anything about them. If you want something, ask for it. Keep things simple, "I'd like to go see the social worker (or "someone") again for a bit of counseling; I have (and accentuate the "I") a problem I'd like to discuss with them." Keep it "tight" and don't leave any room for "last time I checked. . ." and just keep with "there's just something I'd like to discuss" if they ask "why" or "what's wrong", etc.
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