[ThisWayOut]

My wife and I met with a couple's therapist today. We both like her, but I am a bit afraid she may over-react to some stuff... but at least she will keep us in line. She seems to tell it like it is, and has no issues with confrontation if needed (gently though, because if she were too tough, I don't think I would feel comfortable going back).
She seems to have a very calming effect on my wife, which is good. I don't know if she necessarily has that effect on me, but we will see. She seemed trustworthy and I actually wanted to open up to her about things... She will be in contact with both our therapists... I guess that's good for continuity. I just hope she won't press the recent self harm issue... I don't want to talk about that any time soon, but maybe in just general terms. It will be nice to have a safe place to address some of our scarier stuff where we both feel supported.
I hope it turns out as well as we are both hoping it will... so far we both have had good experiences with the clinicians at this place, so here's hoping that she fits the mold. They were originally thinking of assigning a male therapist, and I think we were both ok with it, but I think they talked to the drop-in group clinician and decided a female therapist would be better. I'm relieved because I can only tackle so many trust issues with guys at once, and this will make the self-harm thing a tiny, tiny bit easier to tackle... lots of hard work to come, as we learn to communicate better with each other.

[Perna]

Sounds good so far, please keep us informed! I wouldn't think the couple's therapist would do too much with your self-harming, that sounds like individual therapy work, unless it is directly triggered by your wife/marriage difficulties?

[anilam]

I've never been to couple's T but I too think that it should be mainly focused on your RS so SI would be more brought up (if at all) in terms of the impact it has on your wife and your RS...
Great you two seems to be hitting of with her.

[ThisWayOut]

That is how we would be talking about it. It has impacted our relationship incredibly, but we have not really talked about it or the impact. I think we both needed to feel safe talking about it... I hope the whole thing turns out as good as we are hoping.