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I asked T if he thought that Affect regulation therapy worked. His reply was that the individual components of the therapy work and after some discussion about how i find EMDR too confronting he said "It sounds unscientific but I think it's worth giving it a go" This statement, to me, smacks of desparation. I feel sometimes like he is experimenting on me.
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I think all of therapy is unscientific and all therapists do it try different things and with little more than a hope for the best. But I think it is encouraging if he is willing to try something new to see if helps. Particularly if it is something you are interested in.
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I am not particularly interested in it. Feelings confuse, overwhelm and paralyse me, but in order to be more functional in my life I feel I should try.
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"Observation in clinical practice. . ." http://www.affectregulationtherapy.c...on-Therapy.pdf
versus: EMDR Institute, Inc. - Research Overview I think he's just willing to try whatever sounds good to you, whatever you'd like. That's good. EMDR though is more proven, isn't just some therapist writing up their observations from their own practice.
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Thanks Perna I found that piece of information plus very little else on ART which is why I asked my T whether he thought it works.
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He kind of has to experiment on you if what he suggests you don't care for? He doesn't normally use ART but you have suggested it and he wants you to be comfortable; I'd stick with that thought, that he's trying to help you and make you comfortable, not himself. He's wandering outside his comfort zone to experiment with you, not on you?
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I didn't suggest it, it was his suggestion. I am willing to give it a go, with reservations.
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Can i ask what is it about Emdr that you don't like? I'm interested because i've been struggling with it too... it is very powerful.
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I found the feelings brought up by EMDR extremely overwhelming, so much so that I cannot speak(I literally choke on words) and dissociate to such a degree that it is counter-productive for me. Plus it was the physical closeness of my T that freaked me out, I didn't realise he had to be so close in order to perform EMDR.
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My T taps my feet, which gives a little bit more distance. I'm not sure they do need to be that close to you?
But i found myself easily slipping into i dunno what it's called but i would get sleepy, stare-y, like i didn't want to talk, it became too much effort to form words. I would get nauseous, and disorientated and just spaced out. I don't know if that's dissociation but it wasn't pleasant. Plus like you said the emotions that came up were overwhelming and uncomfortable. But i probably will pursue it again i just need a break from it just now, i feel like it takes a lot of trust and a good relationship with your T to do emdr and this T still is quite new to me and i just didn't feel safe experiencing all that emotion yet.
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Thats pretty much how I reacted too. Only not the too much effort to talk, it's just the words used to "stick" in my throat I'd literally start choking. I also thought I was going to die a couple of times.
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How far along did you get with it? sounds like a horrible experience, what did your T say about the choking, why was it happening?
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I can't really remember what he said about the choking, it was something along the lines of sub-conscious trying to protect the conscious from remembering something traumatic. I could only last 3 sessions. I really couldn't handle any of it.
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When I did EMDR with my T I couldn't handle him being too close...at all. I would become so anxious because he was in my space and then the tapping made me so uncomfortable. I just wasn't able to tolerate a male in my space, touching me while I was discussing traumatic things. So he switched to having me follow his finger with my eyes instead. This was better but still was within my space. So he ended up getting a big stylus sort of thing that I was able to follow with my eyes while he stayed further away from me. It took a bit of trail and error before we found a method that worked for us and that wasn't too distressing.
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