[Mapleton]

I'm sorry that I didn't hear anything you said when you were trying to tell me how to respond to that unimaginable rejection, rather than just taking it. You saw the pain and said you'd help. You leaned forward, so close to me, then I felt anxious, and asked myself "why did she get in my face?" And then you used that hard tone and the words, seemingly from nowhere, and I couldn't figure out why you were attacking me… I was trying to follow the words but they made no sense!

I knew afterwards you weren't attacking. Still, though, why did I feel so small? I'm strong, or I used to be! Could we sit next to each other… or something (at least until I figure this out?)

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I'm okay... about this. Just wanted to say it

[rainbow8]

Thanks for sharing, Mapleton. Often I just want to get it out somewhere, too. I hope you can sit next to your T at your next session and figure it out.

[CantExplain]

I think it's OK to day:

"I was pretty churned up last session and I didn't take in much of what you said. Could you please explain again?"

[Mapleton]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

I think it's OK to day:

"I was pretty churned up last session and I didn't take in much of what you said. Could you please explain again?"

Question. Should I not say the original? Is there such a thing as too much honesty in therapy? Am I setting myself up for damage somehow if I say anything.

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by Mapleton

Question. Should I not say the original? Is there such a thing as too much honesty in therapy? Am I setting myself up for damage somehow if I say anything.

My T always says that nothing is TMI (too much information) to tell her. I think you should tell her all of your feelings about what happened as you posted here. Otherwise, it will be on your mind and come up in different ways. Feeling attacked and feeling small are important to discuss.

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by Mapleton

Question. Should I not say the original? Is there such a thing as too much honesty in therapy? Am I setting myself up for damage somehow if I say anything.

I think you should say what you want to say - there's no such thing as too much honesty.

Remember that hard tone may have come from transference and not from your T...

[Mapleton]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I think you should say what you want to say - there's no such thing as too much honesty.

Remember that hard tone may have come from transference and not from your T...

Thanks. I agree 100%. I read your post and doubted I'd ever feel the same way, but I think I experienced what you did, basically. I hope it means a good thing about this T, that I did

[tinyrabbit]

I think sometimes it can be transference, ie re-enacting experiences with other people, and sometimes we just hear what we expect to hear, if you see what I mean?

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Mapleton

Question. Should I not say the original? Is there such a thing as too much honesty in therapy? Am I setting myself up for damage somehow if I say anything.

You may certainly say the original.