Anything you do and say will be taken down and used against you

wotchermuggle · Jun 24, 2013, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Does anyone else feel like this in T? My T prints off all my emails and texts and I know if I see a bit of paper peeking from his pocket at some stage he will whip it out and say "Well, in that email/text you said...." Then I sometimes have to justify an innocent comment. I do feel attacked sometimes.

I feel like that, yes, but it's because I'm worried about any disclosures about self harm/suicidal thoughts will be held against me...as in forced hospitalization or something. I don't like having those things written down BY me because I can't really talk myself out of that, right?

Jun 24, 2013, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Moodswing

Hah! Mine always has my e-mails printed out. He paraphrases my words. He does not use them against me but does see patterns in my thinking and, emotions and actions. It helps give him a target for EMDR.

This what I think he is doing. It's confronting but eventually (I take forever to process things) I understand what he is saying.

Jun 24, 2013, 07:24 PM

I don't email/text him that often usually when I'm in some kind of crisis and they are generally not T related (or rather they are which is why we discuss them because I have the most awful communication style, where I ask for what I want but the person I'm asking has no idea that I'm asking for help. It has a name i just can't remember.

Anyway I'm sorry for the people who feel ignored by their T's so hugs all round for them with usual disclaimer.

Jun 24, 2013, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

I feel like that, yes, but it's because I'm worried about any disclosures about self harm/suicidal thoughts will be held against me...as in forced hospitalization or something. I don't like having those things written down BY me because I can't really talk myself out of that, right?

Sometimes my problem is I have absolutely no recollection of sending a text, but I can usually confirm it by checking my phone.

CantExplain · Jun 25, 2013, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Damned if they do (remember and want to discuss) and damned if they don't. If they don't bring up emails or remember what you say, then they don't care or aren't paying attention or aren't professional, etc., etc. if they do remember and find what you said to be important, then they are using it against you or throwing it in your face or attacking you.

They knew the risks when they signed up.

PS:
As you can tell, I'm not feeling particularly sympathetic to the plight of therapists at the moment. Being a therapist can't be as bad as being a patient!

Jun 25, 2013, 07:03 AM

My point is not sympathy for the therapist. You are missing my point. My point is how fickle/inconsistent we as patients can be, making it next to impossible for T's to be able to have any clue as to how to respond. We want to have our cake and eat it too. No matter what a T does, half the time it won't please us, so it is a bit of a crap shoot as to whether we will be receptive to what they say or do. We are pretty darn unpredictable as a group.

Jun 25, 2013, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

I feel like this all the time. I feel like I constantly have to be on guard about what I say or else it will be used against me. I hate it

My first therapist was like this. It was a constant battle in my mind about wanting to open up to her and being scared about what she would do with that info.
In the end, she did end up using my honesty against me to dump me. It was all such a waste.

WikidPissah · Jun 26, 2013, 03:39 PM

Count your blessings. XT couldn't remember anything. Drove me nuts.

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