[nessaea]

After reading a few threads on here, it seems people have varying degrees of knowledge about their T. So, I was wondering, how much do you know about your T? How comfortable are you with what you do know?

I know a fair amount about him, but I don't pretend for a minute I know him as we'll as a friend or family member would. He shares a great deal about his family, his children and grandchildren, his girlfriend. I know some background about his upbringing and earlier years. He shares much about his hobbies and interests. I know about his phobia of snakes and his ADHD. I've seen him for a long time, so these are things that have been shared in spits and spurts over time. I am completely comfortable with what he has shared with me.

[content30]

I know professional and some basic, personal info.

[LadyShadow]

I know some things about him, I hate to feel selfish about it, but I'm comfortable about how much I know, because we are there to discuss me not him. I will feel awkward if T brought his personal life problems into our sessions.

[FeelTheBurn]

If I went just based on what she has told me, only her FIRST name, her qualifications, her hometown, and the fact that she dances. Didn't even know her last name until 8 months in when I finally asked.

If you go by a late night ill-advised Googlefest undertaken after I found out she was leaving: I know her family's names and professions, the public portion of her Facebook (not much), and that's about it.

Am I okay with that? Well, in another world, I'd love to have a drink with her and pick. her. brain.

But because of some of the issues that I'm dealing with, I'm very glad not to know more about her, and I'm grateful to her for maintaining that boundary.

[wotchermuggle]

I know very basic details about my therapist and I'm fine with that. The more you know, the less therapy becomes about you.

Still, I always bug my therapist with "What's new with you?" every week though he has NEVER told me anything. Haha, it's a bit of a running joke

[crazycanbegood]

A lot. More than most of my friends.

[1stepatatime]

I know about her credentials, that she has her own practice, her first/last name..lol. I know what kind of car she drives, pretty much that is it. As you can tell she does not self disclose. Initially I didn't like it, and I'm still not sure how to feel about it but I think it makes me feel secure, less stressed....the focus is on me...not her.

[feralkittymom]

During therapy, just the surface details and the odd bit from his childhood. But more importantly, I knew his character, his values, his integrity.

Since therapy, a lot more, but the basics haven't changed.

Professional information plus a bit about his tastes in books and music, because those are things that come up in therapy sometimes. I know no personal details other than which country he is from and approximately how long he's lived in my country.

[depressedandlonely]

I know she used to be in a band that she performed at night in night club.

[Victoria'smom]

I know she has 3 kids, her 2nd job, name and qualification

[marcel83]

Originally Posted by depressedandlonely

I know she used to be in a band that she performed at night in night club.

That's interesting

[marcel83]

I know how old she is,
I know her qualifications,
I know she has a husband and I know his name.

[HealingTimes]

I know about her professional roles, i know She has one older child who is at uni.
I know she has a husband (i have met him). I know She has 2 dogs, takes piano lessons, and had a ****** upbringing.
I know quite a lot i think.

[healed84]

I feel like I know a good amount my own T.. Not too much, not too little. Our MC on the other hand shares nothing about him personally, and it drives me crazy!!

[rainbow8]

I voted that I know basic information but I think I know a lot more than that. Early in t she told me her kids' ages, names, and where she's from. I asked where she was from--it's another state, because I thought she had a particular accent. Her website said that she does yoga, paints, and is a photographer. I see her work on the walls of her office.

I know her ex-H's name and occupation. Some I looked up online and FB. She told me things off and on. Once I asked her a lot of questions about her favorite color, movie, songs, food, etc. She answered all of my questions.

I know countries she's traveled to, and when. I know a little about her family because she told me. I mean her parents and siblings.

I know where she used to live but I don't know where she lives now.
I know she has pets and I know their names (I asked their names).

I know a little bit of her medical history because it was relevant to me.

I know her religion because it's the same as mine and we discuss it sometimes.

I guess I know a lot about her after all! I learned it in bits and pieces over 3 years.

[mandazzle]

I don't really know that much about my T. I've learned less from her than I have from other therapists at the center. I sort of wish I knew more about her... it makes me a little uneasy that she is this mysterious person.

[unaluna]

I think I know a lot, but there is a therapeutic reason! My family of origin treated women as less-than, and just kept me in the dark about a lot of things. It was unnatural! I went thru years of therapy prior to this t, not realizing my warped point of view. It even affected my basic manners - I wouldn't ask someone how their day was, even after they asked me about mine, because I figured if they wanted me to know, they'd tell me (I didnt dare ask my family anything) - so I seemed pretty rude and selfish. So it was awful getting over feeling intrusive and awful and horrible and nosy and uncaring (?!) when I asked t about his plans for a holiday, for example. But now it's just normal. And it's just normal IRL and on here.

I haven't officially had a session yet with my T. Only attended one group session that he has lead and will decide if after a couple of groups lead by him if I want him as my Therapist. Right now i can't imagine knowing anything personal about him, at first I would think our session will be about getting to know who I am, hope it doesn't sound too selfish.

[anilam]

Well guess I know a lot- at least compared to these post (except Hankster's maybe)
He doesn't share unless I specifically ask about it and I do so (helps with anxiety) eventhough I realise (and he points out everytime) that it's a waste of time and money. But hey, they're mine to waste anyway.

[pinkbutterfly]

I know a decent amount...but sometimes I would like to know more. Though I do occasionally ask questions. Which are usually answered.

I know a lot.

[photostotake]

I know quite a bit about my personal t, but he only shares if he thinks it will be helpful in my therapy. So far, it has been. My eating disorders t has shared a little about herself so far, but we've only had 2 real sessions. We're still getting to know each other.

[WikidPissah]

Me knowing too much about him was the downfall of therapy with XT. You can't unring a bell. Unfortunately.