[BadWolf]

So tomorrow is pridefest here and my t has told be she will be there. I have never run into her before. I really appreciate that she told me she would be there. She even told me why organization she will be marching with. I am super nervous about seeing her. I am also nervous, however, about not seeing her.

Should I find her? Should I avoid her?

I guess I could not be anxious and just say hi if I see her, but I am afraid I will me unable to enjoy myself because I will be looking for/ fearing seeing her.

[Miswimmy1]

Totally get that feeling... U want to but u don't. But if u don't then you'll be on edge. Etc. sorry... I think you should try and enjoy yourself and if u see her, great, u can say hi. If not, then... That's too bad. But it shouldn't ruin your whole day I hope.

One thing to keep in mind is that I think if she sees u, she has to wait for you to make the first move. She can't acknowledge u until u give her a clue.

[Wren_]

I think it would be hard not to keep an eye out when you know she will be there. Like swimmy mentioned; some T's have various policies about how they respond to clients outside of session - I'm not sure if yours mentioned that or not; but if it happens just be aware it's meant to be for your benefit. Other T's have more relaxed policies; it may also depend on your country/state though.

That she told you she would be there is nice

Hey, thats so cool that your t will be at pride
It is up to you how you want the situation to go. Your t isn't supposed to approach you or acknowledge you until you say hello to her first. It sounds like you and her are on good terms so by all means say hello IF you bump into her as I am sure pride will be very busy.

[BadWolf]

Thank you all for your replies.

I just got back from pride now. I did not see my t. I was nervous and looking for her at first, but eventually I was able to relax.

I did learn that I do not like being in parades. So many people looking at me...

Are you disappointed you didn't see t?

[BadWolf]

Kinda. I am also a bit relieved.

It could have been awkward, I love my t but would not like to see her at pride. I know she would never be there because she doesn't even know what it is but it would be too weird to see t having fun with her friends.

[BadWolf]

Oh it would have defiantly been awkward! And the I would have had to talk about how awkward it was at our next session.

I think it would have been interesting to see her out-of-the-office and being a real person. I wonder if her personality is different around her friends and family.

And I totally understand why you would not want to see your t at pride. It's a lot of "worlds" colliding.

Originally Posted by BadWolf

Oh it would have defiantly been awkward! And the I would have had to talk about how awkward it was at our next session.

I think it would have been interesting to see her out-of-the-office and being a real person. I wonder if her personality is different around her friends and family.

And I totally understand why you would not want to see your t at pride. It's a lot of "worlds" colliding.

Is your t openly gay? Most ts I know are the same outside the office

[BadWolf]

She is not gay, but she is an "open" ally. She volunteers at our lgbt center and her best friend is trans. She understands how being gay complicates everything just a bit.

Wow, I need your t
Wanna swap?

[BadWolf]

It took a long time to find her, but i am glad that i did. I'm lucky that i live in a place with good lgbt resources.