[nessaea]

Tomorrow is my last session with my T that I have been seeing for about four years. Even though we had to end because of circumstances outside our control (ie. she can only see students) we both feel it was a good time, and there is really no strong feelings of sadness/anger/etc and no unresolved issues between us. It's about as "nice" a termination as you can get. We are also going to stay in touch afterwards, but in a more friendship capacity.

However, I'm feeling really stressed about it. I am feeling like I somehow have to make it the perfect session, and do everything right. I feel this immense pressure like it's my last chance to make her like me, or prove to her that I'm a good person, or show her how much she has helped me, or something like that. None of this is rational; she already likes me and thinks I'm a good person, and I have continuously told her how much she has done for me and how grateful I am to her. But I just feel like I have to make this huge gesture of...something! Like I have to express the entire culmination of our years of work together in this one hour....and it's ridiculous!

Has anyone ever felt like that on your last session? If so, how did you handle it? If not, how did you feel? Did you do anything special for your last session together?

[CantExplain]

Endings are hard. But it will go better if you can let go of the idea that it has to be perfect.

[unaluna]

Just a hug and meaningful looks. Staying in the moment as we reminisce.

[Melody_Bells]

Nessaea, Good luck tomorrow! You will do great! Let us know how it goes.

I understand the feeling of needing the last session to be perfect, needing her to like you and understand how much she has helped you! I went through this with my T, too!

During the last session, I was nervous, said dumb things, but T was so kind and understanding.

At the end, I gave her a big portrait drawing of her, and I cut out some hearts to make a thank you card with a heartfelt letter in it, and we took photos together of the two of us.

Sending you good warm wishes for your session, Nessaea!

[nessaea]

Thanks for the hugs everyone. My last session was really nice. We chatted about fun stuff, and then kind of said what we meant to each other. I was able to tell her how important and inspirational she is to me (albeit very inarticulately) and she told me how she feels about me. I gave her a gift - a copy of a my favourite books - and she also had a gift for me - a pair of socks that she knitted for me! (I always comment on her gorgeous handmade socks!) It was really great, and not at all perfect, and that didn't even matter one bit.

[tinyrabbit]

I'm glad it went well for you.