How often do you fight with T?

Oh gosh, I can't imagine ever fighting with my T. I very rarely fight with anyone verbally, and I've never fought physically with anyone.

How do you feel about that?

We verbally spar all the time because I am trying to show that I am more intelligent.
Pam

What happens if you hit an irreconcilable difference?

Hmmm. I wonder if that could my problem!

Not yet, My T is perfect

Hee... I think there was an element of this! I definitely think it's what my T thought was happening there for a while...

Also, just to address the 'oh no, I could NEVER fight with T' comments... that's what I once thought, too! I've always avoided conflict, and I never thought I would 'fight' with (my lovely) T or that things would ever get so emotional and fraught - not in my therapy!! Not me!! Me who has always been so polite and wouldn't say 'boo' to a goose... But, peel back enough layers... you never know!? Therapy can get pretty raw, buttons get pushed... **** happens

Out of curiosity, and because I always worry about doing something wrong and not knowing it, what can you do in a waiting room that your T doesn't like, or which violates "waiting room protocol"?

It's pretty intense, but it works for me. Irony is my second nature, so I'm glad I can be myself and get away with it in therapy.

We can disagree, yell at each other and tell each other off, and we're still a team, he's still with me. That taught me that I have the option to say no in real life, without my world collapsing or my friends abandoning me.

Sometimes I enjoy it('cause I'm too scared to fight with other people in my life, so with him it's kinda freeing), sometimes I find too hard. But the work is done and that's what's important to me.

LOL!

Lately, I fight a lot with my T. I think I trigger him and he triggers me and we go at verbally. I think we are a good match for intense confrontations. I voice my comments, he gets defensive and we go at it. There is always a cooling down period though and he helps with that. He knows how to make me laugh. Sometimes I'll laugh in the middle of an argument because what he says is so unbelievable that it's funny. Maybe we're both crazy.

There are no fights. We argue every now and then, but we talk it through.

It was just a freak, ambiguous situation that arose because of an open door, and we each interpreted it differently and considered different issues. I don't think there is any general lesson to be learned about waiting room etiquette.

I ticked "we fight a lot", but it's not quite that simple. Sometimes I fight with him. Sometimes I fight with him when really I'm fighting myself, or someone else from my life. Sometimes it's about him, and sometimes it's not.

And really I'm always the one doing the fighting. I'm the one who gets angry. My T is just there, with me. I'll feel like I'm fighting with him, but he doesn't fight me.

I've felt angry towards my T and we've had ruptures because I've felt she hasn't handled things 'right' but we've never had an argument . When I end up finally telling her about my upset she always always is sympathetic and tries to mend whatever pain my wound is causing. She is great!!!!