[Yobeth]

I went on vacation from July 17-31. My T is on vacation from Aug. 1-28. So it's 6 LONG weeks until I see T.

I sent T an email on July 31st about changing my next appointment. It was late in the day. She didn't answer. She told me she won't answer emails while she is on vacation.

She is in private practice. She never told me who is covering for her while she is away. She usually has the same T cover for her every time she goes away but I can't be sure this time.

I would never call the T on call unless I was in distress so it's unlikely I need to know. But I feel she had an opportunity to tell me when I emailed her on July 31st but she didn't respond.

Should I say something to her when I see her on Aug 28th or should I just let it go as I won't need to call the T who is on call. It's just bothering me. I feel like she doesn't care about me. This is the 2nd time she forgot to tell me who is on call for her.

[Miswimmy1]

If its really bothering you, I would just bring it up casually... "I realized while you were gone that we didn't really have a plan for who I could call while you were gone... do you think maybe we could work things out a little better before you leave next time?" She probably just forgot to tell you, or assumed that you knew. I wouldn't hold it against her.

[BonnieJean]

Maybe she has emergency contact for another t on her answering machine message?

[NWgirl2013]

If I have learned anything, it is this: No one can read your mind. Not even your T. (or maybe, especially)
So, if something is bothering you, bring it up. It is the only way to clear the air.

[scorpiosis37]

Originally Posted by Yobeth

I went on vacation from July 17-31. My T is on vacation from Aug. 1-28.

I sent T an email on July 31st about changing my next appointment. It was late in the day. She didn't respond.

But I feel she had an opportunity to tell me when I emailed her on July 31st but she didn't respond.

She probably should have discussed her absence with you prior to your vacation, but it's possible that she did not yet know who would be covering for her at that time, since you left 2 weeks before her vacation began. Sometimes, those things aren't nailed down that far in advance. Still, if that was the case, she should have discussed that with you at your last session before vacation.

In regards to her not responding on July 31, I wouldn't hold that against her. Things can get pretty crazy the day before a vacation! Just think of all the things that have to get done-- packing, errands, dry cleaning, cleaning/securing the house, giving keys to a friend/neighbor, caring for children/pets, squaring things away at work, returning phone calls, paying bills, talking to the person covering for you, etc. Can you tell that I've just done all of the above? Anyway, I think responding to an e-mail on July 31 is probably more than she (or most) would be capable of. I understand your desire for a response, though. I just think the issue should have been addressed earlier-- before you left-- so that you wouldn't be in limbo now, not knowing who to contact (should you need to).