Discussing sex with a therapist of the opposite gender?

Maybe I am sexist? I don't think so, I have always been very comfortable accepting women as equal. Even worked for a female boss for about 20 years, and although I no longer work there, I still think only the best of her. But, when my female therapist has brought up sex a couple of times, I got very ... Embarrassed, tense, defensive. I have broached the subject in general terms ... She knows that I haven't dated in quite a few years, the stress of life kind of took its toll on me there. The last time she brought it up, she was very blunt, I got very embarrassed, and I told her I just couldn't go there with her.

Were she a man, I would have been able to discuss the topic with her in depth.

Was I wrong? Am I being sexist?

I can't talk about with my male t... I think sometimes the teaching is that they shouldn't talk about sex With the opposite sex because it's inappropriate. Course I have trouble taking about it in general, but more so with my male t... I tHink it's more cultural than sexist. (And maybe also a generational thing? )

There was a sexual tension between me and Madame T that made it easier to talk about sex.
I am a heterosexual male.

I haven't talked about it much with my T but I think it depends on their manner towards it - he is very relaxed and never seems embarrassed or awkward which means I can imagine discussing it if it comes up in the future.

I don't see it as connected with being wrong or sexist; more about what you feel comfortable with and what works for you.

It only really becomes a problem if you are needing help with that area and want to discuss sexual matters with your T ... in which case, you may want to consider either looking for a male T (which may only be specifically for this work) or asking your therapists help to feel more comfortable sharing what is necessary with her

If it isn't an area you want to discuss with a T anyway then hopefully your T will respect what you've said about not wanting to go there with her as far as blunt discussion about sex

For some reason I actually find it easier talking with a therapist of the opposite gender (so with a male T in my case) but it's important to find what works for you since this is your therapy

I've never had a problem talking to my t about sex. All my t up until the current one have all been women. I'm just more comfortable w/ women than men.

Edit: I'm a heterosexual male.

I am actually more comfortable (generally speaking) talking to men about sex than other woman. I am a heterosexual female. I find many times other woman can be judgmental in a way that most men are not.

I don't think you're wrong or sexist. Have you ever had open dialogue about intimate things with other women?

I'm very open with my male therapist about everything in my life, including all things sexual. I've always had a stronger connection to men, so it's not uncomfortable for me.

My first T was a women and we talked about sex, but it was like discussing it with my grandma ... Ack. Second T was a younger male and I bit the bullet and just did it and found out it was actually ok. Sex is a soar spot for me and talking about past transgressions was gonna be hard no matter who I spoke with. I found, no eye contact at first helped.

I don't think you're sexist. Sex is a delicate and personal issue for most people, I think we all feel more comfortable with one sex over the other. I am a hetero female, and I am much more relaxed with men than women. Of course, I can't talk to either about sex, but that's just because I am uptight.

A lot of people have a preference who they can talk to about sex. Or, it could be that the T isn't doing more to make you more at ease with the topic.

I'm a hetero female, and I prefer male therapists in general. I get combative with female T's.

No way am I ever going to talk to my T about my sex life or lack thereof.

Doesn't matter what sex they are

I am a hetero female and find it much easier to talk about anything and everything to my male t. Sex has been brought up a number of times and comfortably so. Don't get me wrong, it is weird at first, but I know he doesn't judge anything I've ever told him. With my female t, I just don't have that same connection, so the topic of sex would never be brought up- at least not by me. If she does, I'm not sure how I'll react.

Try to work through the discomfort. Sex is a very common topic.

I have a opposite gender T and I talk about sex as I need to. But sometimes if I feel like a question crosses the line, I get defensive real fast.

"Why do you need to know THAT?" (Perve.)

This doesn't in and of itself sound like sexism to me. It sounds like shame and discomfort around sex. Which I think is pretty common. How long have you been seeing your t and how easily do you talk about other sensitive or (subjectively) shameful things?
You certainly don't have to talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable. But I find that my discomfort kind of tells me where the money is. I get the most out of therapy when if I make the effort to talk about things that make me uncomfortable. Not each and every session but not avoiding those topics either.
Also if you're a straight man I would guess that there's a lot to be gained from learning how to talk about sex with a woman. You might find the payoff in terms of greater intimacy well worth whatever discomfort you have to push through in therapy. Forgive me for channeling Dan Savage here, but being able to talk about sex with partners and potential partners can make your sex life a lot more interesting

ha ha ha.... exactly!