My T gives one sentence replies. I know she sees other people but I mention a lot of things in email but she only mentions our next appointment time.

Bit upset that that she don't reply more. I'm not crying or anything like that but it hurts me. It hurts because it's the reality that I'm just a client and she runs a business.

[granite1]

it sounds like it hurts but I don't think that might be your T intentions e-mail can be so hard. I think a lot of T's think the longer the response the greater chance of misinterpretation. I don't know what you sent in your e-mail but maybe a coll would be a better choice if it is possible for you to be able to talk with T on the phone .I know for me it isnt

Originally Posted by granite1

it sounds like it hurts but I don't think that might be your T intentions e-mail can be so hard. I think a lot of T's think the longer the response the greater chance of misinterpretation. I don't know what you sent in your e-mail but maybe a coll would be a better choice if it is possible for you to be able to talk with T on the phone .I know for me it isnt

I don't talk by phone. That is not something she would like and I would never do that. I mention a lot by email but I get the impression she either doesn't care or maybe she has other reasons. It affects me though, because I like her a lot as a person but I won't force her to reply by email. It's her decision not mine, but I have feelings that this person just sees me as money and has no feelings. I know this isn't true because she's helped me with paying sessions but still can't help thinking it.

[Raging Quiet]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

My T gives one sentence replies. I know she sees other people but I mention a lot of things in email but she only mentions our next appointment time.

Bit upset that that she don't reply more. I'm not crying or anything like that but it hurts me. It hurts because it's the reality that I'm just a client and she runs a business.

My T doesn't write long emails either because she hates using it.

She usually mentions she will see me in the next session or (if I've been upset in an email - TWICE in 4 years) she calls me.

I know it hurts, you have to believe you are more than a client, you are a person, a ball of energy and totally unique.



Xx

[granite1]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

I don't talk by phone. That is not something she would like and I would never do that. I mention a lot by email but I get the impression she either doesn't care or maybe she has other reasons. It affects me though, because I like her a lot as a person but I won't force her to reply by email. It's her decision not mine, but I have feelings that this person just sees me as money and has no feelings. I know this isn't true because she's helped me with paying sessions but still can't help thinking it.

I know the place you are in all to well. it is so hard when you feel something so deep .like you are just money, she doesn't care .it is hard not to think this way when you see every bit of evidence to point to it .I think it is way deeper then the e-mail. so in turn I don't think you should be hurt by the e-mail responses. but maybe muster up that 20 sec of courage and ask you T if she cares about you . may times if you have to because I know it is hard to believe when they say yes. sorry if I am way off with this and you are feeling so bad . I sure have been there

[AnnaBegins]

I agree with granite1 - I have a lot of the same feelings as you do and I've been trying to muster up the courage to ask my T if he cares about me as a person since I have a pile of "evidence" built up in my mind that he does not. It really hurts and me feeling like this makes our sessions less productive. I'm sorry that you are feeling this pain as well.

Look I'm sorry I just don't feel well. I tell my T things nobody else will know but if she don't care nobody else will. It hurts a lot because nobody understands me and the one person I think might perhaps doesn't care. What do I do?

[granite1]

im sorry if anything I said makes you feel bad ill back off ok I hope things will look better soon

Or if you don't want to go the direct approach of 'do you care about me?' you could always say 'I feel lately because of indirect replies and such I've received recently that there may be some distractions from what we're trying to do. I have examples if you need them but I was hoping we could talk about this." That way you've made it clear you've noticed something that makes you feel less than comfortable and you want to address it with your T in a non-accusatory way.

Asking 'do you care about me [as a person]' may ilicit a 'yes, of course' response with little assurances thrown in but may not stop the situation from happening again.

Just a thought.

[1stepatatime]

My T usually gives very brief replies. I think this is because they don't want to do therapy via email, for many reasons. I understand the frustration. Probably the best thing to do is bring it up during your session...and that isn't easy, I know

Originally Posted by granite1

im sorry if anything I said makes you feel bad ill back off ok I hope things will look better soon

You've said nothing wrong.




Just want to drink because it helps.