Friends with T after therapy?

RTerroni · Sep 10, 2013, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by rainbow8

I understand because I feel that way about my T, especially having spent last session comparing notes on our travels! But, when we aren't paying our Ts and seeing them for a session, it won't be the same. We can't talk for an hour to them then, without paying for it. Probably emailing is an option, but that's not like sitting there in the session. Do you see what I mean? I think the relationship HAS to change when we're not in regular therapy anymore, but I think we can still be close to our Ts. It will be our real selves interacting, like you say, but it won't be as often. At least not for me. Maybe it will be different for you.

I agree with you somewhat but at the same time you are both human beings so having those types of feelings in completely natural.

purple orchid · Sep 10, 2013, 12:17 PM

Thanks for all your comments, they have really made me think.
I dream of being friends with my T after therapy but also realise that it is a crazy idea.
T's are lovely to us (well mine is) he listens to me, makes me feel safe and supported just like a best friend should. But at the end of the day that is their job and they are paid to create that 'therapeutic' relationship,
In real life they are just human too!
I'd still like to sit my T down and ask them the million questions that I'm dying to know about them, then see if we actually do have anything in common that we could develop a friendship on...

WePow · Sep 10, 2013, 12:19 PM

I thought it might be a nice thing to have happen, but after 5 yrs of seeing T every week I decided I would not want to be friends with him. He is good as a T, but I just don't have many friends IRL. I just would not have the energy to maintain a friendship with him.

Asiablue · Sep 10, 2013, 12:51 PM

With my exT i wanted a friendship with her so badly, i always hoped that when we ended i could somehow keep her in my life in some capacity. But we had a " messy breakup"

lol so just now i'm processing that. Sometimes i think about her and miss her and other times i just hate her.

pbutton · Sep 10, 2013, 01:23 PM

My former T and I have some email contact. We are not friends though, our discussions are still mainly about me and not him.

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