[Wren_]

There seems to be lots of different reasons for being in therapy ... wondering what applies for those of us here

both for beginning therapy and then for either continuing or ending therapy

the most recent time of starting therapy I began because i needed help staying alive but there is a lot more to it as well as far as help with making changes; healing; living; coping with different things; etc. etc. etc. my list could go on for a long time (still thinking about this)

[wotchermuggle]

I want to be less afraid and able to accomplish things other people seem to do easily. I want to be able to be touched and want to want to be touched.

[Freewilled]

I want to feel worthy of being alive. I want to be able to really connect with other people. I want to matter.

[yoyoism]

I wish I knew. :/

[CantExplain]

To be free from irrational, exaggerated and debilitating fear.

[haier]

I want to learn to be happy...and like myself and feel confident...most important i want to feel normal.

[growlycat]

maint T--to learn that not everyone in the world is my family. Learning to talk about my emotions without shame. Having some control over my thoughts and feelings

cbt t - get a handle on my health and get fit like crazy. overcome my driving fears/highway driving

I mainly use all my therapy to have healthy, caring people in my life who want to help me

[Wren_]

I mainly use all my therapy to have healthy, caring people in my life who want to help me

i like that description

A way out of the mess that is my life, and also to be able to communicate feelings towards someone and have them understand the feelings.

[Arha]

To reduce my anger and fear, and increase my happiness and friendliness.
To see life as positive and rewarding, rather than a series of disappointments and failures.
To trust my own judgement, rather than needing others to check and comment on all my decisions, actions and and opinions.
To believe in myself.

[Solepa]

I wish to be able to set myself free to be able to feel, experience and just live my life instead of just surviving all alone. And maybe one day feel safe to be myself no matter how vulnerable with other human being ....

[Aloneandafraid]

I want to stop feeling afraid of being alone, stop using food/laxatives as a way to feel in control ?! I want to be able to cry.

To not get triggered and traumatized by it ...

To discover who I am.

[Asiablue]

Connection with someone who REALLY gets it, to not so feel alone with my emotions and experiences.
To process and heal from trauma.

[refika]

To figure out who I am and what I want.
To be able to live with my past and accept it as part of me, without it consuming me and sending me into a pile of mush.
To be a strong, confident person that is not afraid of saying no.
To live rather than just respond and survive.
To be able to regulate my emotions rather than just push them away.
To be able to trust myself, trust others around me, and trust the universe.
To be able to love myself.

I started because I wanted to have just a few days a week where "I didn't kill myself today" was not my huge accomplishment for the day. Then, I wanted to learn how to stay out of the pit of despair on my own without constantly needing someone to either help me get out, or help keep me from sliding off into the pit.

[Poppy Princess]

Nothing but I'm being made to so whatever I guess.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

I started because I wanted to have just a few days a week where "I didn't kill myself today" was not my huge accomplishment for the day. Then, I wanted to learn how to stay out of the pit of despair on my own without constantly needing someone to either help me get out, or help keep me from sliding off into the pit.

And now?

[tinyrabbit]

To not commit sui, get over PTSD and learn to live with my wounds.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

And now?

I'm still at the point of needing help out of the pit sometimes.

[rainbow8]

I know it sounds silly, but my goal for therapy has always been to not have the need for more therapy.

As far as what I want from therapy, I want to be able to tell someone my innermost thoughts and worries, and all my secrets, and have that person understand and help me. (which is what my current T does) I like having someone like that in my life--someone who gives me unconditional love and wants to help me, and who doesn't criticize me.

specific goals for right now are: to stop comparing myself to others, to have more self-esteem, to feel like I'm worth it, to look forward to the rest of my life, to accept what I can't change in my life, and to feel less self-conscious about my body and physical stuff, and to not judge people for the way they look. I'm been working on all of this, but probably not enough.

[FeelTheBurn]

Sometimes I just want to gather everyone here up in a giant hug (except of course stopdog, with whom I would respectfully shake hands). I love the honesty and vulnerability in this thread, the simple human desires for a life free from self-imposed pain. Everyone here RULES.

I want to stop the "kill yourself" hamster wheel in my head. I want to unleash the creative wild animal inside me and let it run free through the world. I want to be functional and self-directed enough to support myself without help, to set my own terms of what "a life well-lived" looks like. I want to be able to connect with people on a level that enables me to share my abundance of love.

Of course, right now I'd settle for my T calling me back. GET ON IT, WOMAN!

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by tigergirl

There seems to be lots of different reasons for being in therapy ... wondering what applies for those of us here

both for beginning therapy and then for either continuing or ending therapy
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I've had many varying reasons for therapy. Right now, it's about coping and dealing with my exh. Now, the last session, it was about learning that 'nesting' situations were no good for the kids, and I really needed to assert myself, and see clearly why 'nesting' arrangements don't work. (not the live-in nesting, but the location of the visitations) And at the time, my exh was being threatening. I learned about nesting arrangements upon seeing a woman at the RO hearing with a broken finger from her exh. Well, I at least, learned there's a name for them.

My talk therapist and I are going to have to cover a lot of catching up ground, between session and the last one, which was sometime in late July. He's really great at lighting a fire beneath my feet, and also he's great at helping me with word choices and making life changing decisions.

He was great, last fall/winter with the fall out of that former email friendship I had, when that went South. And he was there, when I was dealing with the impending loss of my mother and as I was going through divorce. He's also of great assistance, when I have had some slight struggles in the workplace.

I'm at a crossroads, and after this week, I will know more about what type of support I will need from therapy, but I am sure, he'll be there, weekly, as I navigate the path, whichever path I am about to go down.

That's what's great about therapy, for me, at this point in my life, is I can bring the drama into his office, and leave out major portions of drama from my friends and family. And he will ensure that I keep on a logical rationally minded pathway.

And this is why, when I called him, to set my reschedule time frame, he got me right into MY FIRST Available Hour!!! Because, he will learn that it's been a sitter nightmare for me, etc.

He's going to be there, as I get through something very, very major in my life!